Hey guys,
I've been MIA on this forum because I've been busy with other areas of my life. But, however in the mean time - I've been collecting variable information which some of you may be able to use in the PUA life. So here it goes!
Now, is it possible that a Sweet Guy can woo a girl of their dreams? My answer is-sure why not! Now, this considers major thought and many ideas, also concepts.
My conclusion is of many:
Since bad boys don't usually stick around long enough because they're too busy dumping the hottie for some other fresh meat! So this is what I obtained from my MIA episode!
I sent a email to Gambler, well sort touched bases about this whole thing. My theory is that there a woman loves a sweet guy and no matter how hot they are-all they want is a guy that will love them for who they are and connect EMOTIONALLY on their level. I know, hot women play hard to get for a very good reason and in fact a very good one indeed. Just like Zip has said in her webinars-hot women basically put up a bitch shield or a hard to get attitude to weed out the losers from the winners.
I was in a gas station getting buying some mountain dew and some cigarettes. I over heard some female employee talking to another girl about her girlfriend setting him up with this guy that is a total sweet heart. Now, I guess what I read or maybe the thing I thought was that a guy has to be a bad ass or whatever. Like Gambler said in his book-what if it's possible to mix the bad ass qualites within the nice guy? It is possible and some of the ways are many such as:
1) Swearing a couple of times - some may not get this theory but however, it shows to them-you really don't give a fuck what they think and you're just being yourself. Now, you don't wanna sound like a truck driver swearing in every sentence you breath. However, just maybe once in a while.
2) Mention some things that you wouldn't tell others-such as:
a) If she's pressing about your past experiences, just say, "I don't really want to talk about it right now, but maybe later." This will cue to her that either you are hiding something which is mysterious
So, she'll either stop pressing and move on to another topic, or if she's really annoying she may beg you to tell her. Just take it light and joke around with her keeping the playful attitude and not keeping it too serious. People hate seriousness - there is a time and a place to be serious but however, people like playful and friendly attitubes in others. I remember, I did this video repsonse to one of the youtube celebrities named Makemebad35 "Jimmy has no boner!" (Long Story-don't wanan get in to it). However, the video response that I did was so boring and dull that I got brutally bashed for it! I played it back and was like, "Wow! That does suck!"
So back to the point! Now being sweet and overly nice is two different things! Being sweet contains things that mose guys over do-such as send flowers to their workplace, buy them expensive gifts, fight a tiger with their bares and so on.
But being sweet is a total concept of what I figured out! Wanna hear? Good-I knew you would!
Being sweet means being their for them-such as rought time and let downs. If she's getting bashed for something-back her up and stick up for her. Also, you may want to sooth her. Basically, what I'm getting at is that a girl loves a man that can make her feel good-lift her up from her rainy days! You know? A man that will tell her how it is and not beat around the bush trying to please her-kinda thing. Now, this doesn't mean if she is pregnant to tell her she looks like a cow and personally, I would just make that kinda private. People can't read thoughts, even though it seems like it! So, if she gains a couple of pounds-so fucking what! Now, it would be a considerable concern if she was eating a shipment of cup cakes all day then you may want to say something about it- but however, don't beat around the bush like telling her whatever that will make her feel better temporary. This act is being assertive and being a assertive is most important turn-on for women! Assholes may seem to get the hottest girl but however, the assholes they date never seem to stick around-hmmm...funny isn't it or more ironic?
So, before I end this thread-being sweet doesn't mean spoil her to death because she already been spoiled since birth. However, alittle challenges there and here will do just fine. A friend of mine that use to work at Wal-mart said I was mean-however, when I questioned her that Jason was mean to her also, she replied that I'm mean in a funny way. Possibly because I tease alot and they like that!
So, maybe three or more principles of being a sweet guy and not a too nice of a guy are these:
1) Tease
2) Create challenges.
3) Show her affection - because poeple thrife on affection it isn't even funny!
4) Show her compassion and passion for who is she and what she has to go through day in and day out.
5) Finally, show authorive or some kinda leadership - this doesn't mean being a show off, because thie one guy that works with me (black, tall, skinny, good looking) however, most of the girls really don't like him-in fact most of them quit. Brian, shows off alot-sings while he pushes carts, doesn't really get it though his head. This girl he was chatting up with named Danni turned him down. He asked, "Why don't you wanna talk to me?" "because I don't want to!" you know how the story goes!
So that's it for now! I'll think of some more things while going back to my MIA for a while. Take care guys! Also, I have a youtube channel which I want you guys to subscribe too! It contains tutorials, some video responses, some just random stuff and some messing with Adobe After Effects CS3.
Later!
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