Should I feel like my time is running short? She has 8 roommates, she's cheated on me with one of them. This relationship is important to me. And she has 7 people, including her best friend, telling her to date this guy that she sees every day. unfortunately I won't be allowed to post on mASF relationship forum for five days since i'm new over there. Her and I are 'on a break' since yesterday that I told her we were on, that she didn't want to be on. Now i'm thinking clearly, and that was a bad mistake. I feel like just straight up telling her we are still together.

also, we were supposed to hang out today, but she went home sick from work and is now going to dinner with her roommates cause one of them is proposing to the other. I wasn't invited because I told her I wasn't going over to her house after she told me she cheated. I actually want to go to this thing and see her though.

Whatever you're decision was, follow through on it. Don't change your mind last minute because it will lower your value or in simpler words, make you look like a spineless pussy. Even if it hurts.

Give it a few days, and tell her the break is over. During those few days, don't be an asshole, but don't be a pushover either. Just act as the guy she fell in love with.

On another note, don't let this other guy effect your self-esteem.

Remember she is very vulnerable and emotional right now. Anything could happen. So prepare yourself. Think clearly and do not let your emotions effect your critical thinking and plans.

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I'm also about to give advice that probably won't make it a healthy relationship but she will be whipped.

In order for her to be madly in love you/stage 5 clinger, you need to be a very big part of her life. I mean you need to be her life. She is in a very unstable and emotional state right now and you can easily manipulate her in this state. Read up on fractionation and symbolic morphology. You could carry her through an emotional rollercoaster. You have the ability to do this. You can make her not function if you aren't in her life, thus she won't do anything to lose you. You as the person wearing the pants in this relationship-give it the direction. You can do a better job in creating the realization of loss.

Best of luck.[/i]

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Be a man, dont show emotions but comfort her when needed

That comment is just stupid!

Show feelings but do not be a needy whimpy loser.

Also, if she has already cheated on you, why do you still want to be with her. It sounds to me that this is a lost cause. Unless you can reanimate that special thing that was you two...

given the situation, forgiveness is definitely in line.

You can still forgive her and not be with her. Honestly you need to follow up with the break.

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beschattens advice is sweet.. listen to it


i also think that u need to do something exciting for ur girl... to end the break. not necessarily romntic but jut a thrill a new to sort of DHV again,
then maybe make more romantic moves.

personally i wouldnt stay after cheating... or she would have to WORK to get me bck.... like i had to do for my girlfriend after the 4 time i was naughty