Pressure When In The Scene

I get to talk to many of you one on one through email, IM, or phone conversations. One of the common things I hear is how there is a lot of pressure on you when you are out. Pressure to do things right as far as the method is concerned. Pressure not to goof up your routines. Pressure to open the girl. Pressure not to loose the set. Pressure, Pressure, Pressure!

Believe me I understand. When I'm out with students and wings I feel enormous pressure to perform well for them and pull some kind of close for myself and for them. It's a lot to take on because not only do you have your own thoughts but you have someone else a few feet away watching your movements and listening to your conversations.

It is common to feel this way after studying various amounts of material, and you realize now its just up to you to go out and apply what you've learned. Sometimes I find it is best for people to take a break from the scene for a little while. Stop reading more material, stop concerning yourself with other people's posts, stop worrying about getting it right. Just focus on going out and having a good time. No one is there watching you or judging you. There is a lot less pressure when you're not as involved in the scene so to speak. Then you will find yourself actually doing better with women.

Of course, still record your results with what happened so that you can learn from your nights out. Try to write as much as you remember about what was said, and her reactions when they do happen. If you're out having fun and they don't happen then that's fine too. If you don't approach inside 3 seconds, who cares? Take the pressure of yourself. No one is grading you on this....this is life.

Some people need a few weeks, and some people need a few months. Take your time and take your knowledge and take the pressure off yourself. Do your normal stuff with your normal friends. When you find yourself doing better, come back gain some knowledge, help others if you want, and then go back out.

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