So my LTR is a piece of shit. But we cant get rid of each other. And no I don't want to hear "get rid of her and sarge more girls". I'm in South Korea, fucking chicks but we made an agreement to not see other people or hook up, and when I get back we'll continue our LTR. However, she cheated on me, twice. No sex though. Now I know I broke the agreement, but I don't care. She's a great fuck and I don't imagine myself doing shitty couple things with anyone else. That's why I want her to stick around. Her vagina is uber tight and I want it that way, thats why I dislike it when she cheats. I need to DHV, gain control of the situation. She said I can't control her, and I'm not forceful enough. We just got off the phone.


Now I need help gaining control of this situation. I come back to the states in 6 days while shes at the beach with her girly friends. Now, do I freeze out for 8 days, I know I shouldnt nag her about it, or should I drop a bombshell that I fucked all these chicks here ( I take that back, thats a terrible idea).

How do I DHV? So she doesnt take me for granted, that she has the fear of losing me. I need to instill this fear. Do I make her jealous with photos of me and other girls?

I need direction, and I need the best advice. Chief I need you.

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Another note, she has this weird distorted perception of me, just being some laid back guy that can't make decisions. This is so difficult. I feel like I need to make a strong freeze out and make her feel lose. Is this how I instill the fear of loss?

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nevermind, this is closed. she just ended it because I nagged her about cheating. What a fucking bitch. Thank God I have whores to fuck here and "backups" or potential GF's back home. Or else I'd be crushed. Fucking bitch breaks up everytime she gets emotional or angry. Disfunctional.

FUCK THIS FUCK THIS FUCK THIS FUCK THIS FUCK THIS FUCK THIS FUCK THIS FUCK THIS FUCK THIS FUCK THIS FUCK THIS FUCK THIS

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That was wierdly entertaining reading all that.

It looks like it's over and the game continious.

LTR only work for short periods of time if that. I don't know why people do them in the first place.

Amazing! In less than an hour you went from...
...all the way to...
Why the fuck would you get on her about cheating (no sex) when you were fucking like a rock-star in South Korea? You let your jealousy get to you and now you've lost the girl.

FREEZE OUT. You can't fix this, so you just have to wait for her to come back. FREEZE OUT!!

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Well uh... I JUST saw this thread. Weirdly entertaining, yes. Understandable, yes.

Women can sure bring out the best and worst in men.

After you calm down and collect your rational perceptions once again, reread this thread, Beschatten. You might be surprised.

The best metaphor for having the tightest Inner Game possible would be if you were completely centered as a fixed point in the universe. If this were the case, how emotionally reactive would you be? Compare that state of self-control and self-assurance with what you read above.

Also, what is it that you like/love about women?

point taken. im freezing her out.
she im'd me but i ignored her and she said all this shit about "she didnt mean it she was just angry and lost control".
i just ignored her and continued masturbating to my pornhub.com videos.
tonight i go to a club to sarge. if she fucks 1 guy, ill fuck a 100 to destroy her.

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Two words my friend.... Angry Sex

Fuck make-up sex, I mean thats all fine and dandy... but you haven't lived until you've had mid fight sex.

I'm reminded of a song I used to listen to quite often

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N7IwEYTAB84[/youtube]

LOL THIS MADE ME LAUGH SOO MUCH.

Yeah, it was certainly entertaining reading this thread, no offense.
Just remember not to let this shit happen anymore. Something I'm working on right now is to try to maintain a strong frame and posture in all situations.

If she's being like that, then forget her. NEXT

See, i want to do something else then just forget and move on. I want to change her reality. the reality that she can loss me because everytime she does this i end up forgiving her. but yeah for now I'm freezing out until she contacts me.

what do i do to instill the fear of losing me?

the two-faced cunt. her name is lydia, if you ever meet a girl named lydia and is korean, run for your fucking life. she gives the worst head and shes sloppy and selfish during sex. she's best drowning in her own floppy vagina.

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The path of trying to control others and the path of self-destruction merge ahead.

The best road to take is the highway of compassion.

god dammit chief, help me out. what do i do to instill the loss of fear in her? im running on blanks right now. i can only freeze out. all i want to do is instill the reality that she can lose me so i can actually get this LTR to work.

i feel like my brain stopped working and my heart has been smashed into shards of glass and its jabbing into my organs. fucking girls will only make me miss her more.

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Jesus titty-fucking Christ dude--stop being such a girl.

If you were holding any cards at all, I could support you in your revenge. I'm not necessarily opposed to vengeance, so long as it is just retribution, but you have been getting laid on a regular basis at home and then gets bent out of shape when she cheats on you? Are you that self-absorbed?

You are displaying the strongest beta traits ever...I haven't felt so bent out of shape over a girl since my first relationship, and looking back I realize what a chode I was. How do you ever expect to attract this girl when you are the neediest, most jealous person imaginable?

It's character traits like this that really disgusts me--no sense of fairness or honor. You would rather sucker-punch someone in a fight, because you lack the balls to actually confront someone and risk getting your ass kicked.

Start acting like a fucking man.

Disgusting.

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Lo' there do I see My Father.
Lo' there do I see the line of My People, back to the beginning.
Lo' they do call to me, they bid me take my place among them.
in the Halls of Valhalla, where the brave may live forever.

This is not true. I have no idea how this has to do with anything.

and no i havent been getting laid at home, ive gotten laid while 3,000 miles away from her, but not at home. you're right though maybe i should see things differently. it just disgusts me thinking about another guy's dick inside of her.

update: she emailed me, she basically said she's sorry and didnt mean the breakup. im still freezing her out.

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