how do you get genuine IOIs from a stripper? i had one sit on my lap for like 45 minutes my first time at a club, and she was just talking with me and joking and telling me how cute it was that i was so young and innocent (i was 18 at the time), and then when my buddy final bought me a lap dance (i said before i went in that i would refuse to pay for one) she told me that touching wasnt allowed, but that we could pretend i dont know the rules since its my first time...

of course at the time i assumed that this was all part of her marketing scheme (the group i went with game me all the warnings and told me how to not get played), but he guys i was with had plenty of experience in the clubs and they said afterwards that they'd never seen a girl even fake being that interested and thats why they bought me the dance.
in hind sight, it seemed like that was a little more than just her trying to get paid for the dance, since she could have worked 2 or 3 other guys in the same time it took her to get me to pay for one.
how do i recognize in the future when the hired guns (stripper or otherwise) is legit interested in me?!?!