Hey guys,

I've been reading around here for the last year or so, only just decided to create an account.

Okay, well my ex broke up with me about a week ago. We were together for about a year and a half. I've thought about it a lot, and tried to keep emotions out of it as much as possible, and I really do want her back. She's a great girl. I don't need her in any way, I'm not relying on her for anything. I just want her back.

Embarrassingly enough, I've done the whole "i love you so much, you mean so much to me" and indirectly begged her to get back with me. As much as I know it's against what the community would say to do, I just felt like I had to say it and get it off my chest. I'm hoping this wouldn't have ruined my chances with her too much.

Basically she just told me that she still loves me, but it just doesn't feel like it used to. We've still been hanging out and having sex since we broke up. This wouldn't help at all with me getting over her, but that isn't what I want to do. I'm completely clueless on how to go about this.

What would you suggest? And please don't say, "just move on, go f--k ten other women". Like I said, I've thought about this a lot and I really do want her back.

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woah. good answer.

If you're going to have sex with her still, she doesn't want you back anyways. Stop having sex with her, go meet other women, but let her NOTICE that you're moving on with your life. SHE will be most likely the one that wants YOU back!

Thanks for the advice. Interested in hearing other peoples opinions

She knows she's the one in control here, you gotta stop sleeping with her and play the jelously card. Let her miss the things she normally gets from you (i.e. sex, your loyality and the attention you give her, doing things for her e.g) remind her of the reasons she liked you the first and bring a whole lot more aswell. You need to tell her it has to stop and you just want to be friends and after show her you have pre-selection and options. Plus maybe even that your on the up and life is getting better.

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