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| anon90210 | PostPosted: Thu Oct 06, 2016 3:35 pm | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Enthusiast | Joined: Fri Apr 17, 2015 11:38 pm Posts: 85 | | I'll begin with an example. When I was 18 I met a great girl that I began dating. We dated for 2 years then broke up. I was a mental wreck, I thought of myself as a victim. I had anxiety attacks, couldn't sleep, couldn't eat, just a depressed ass kid. But I wonder, what causes one person to act the way that I acted, versus just moving on and meeting new girls right away? I believe it is the mentality of a victim. The mentality that the way you feel was forced upon you by external forces. Identifying with your symptoms of pain and hurt, and believing that they are part of who you are. This is what I believe drove me into the hole I was in. Nothing that happened to me made me a depressed wreck like I was, it was me treating myself like a victim. How did I get out of the hole I dug myself in? I stopped treating myself like a victim. I stopped believing my symptoms were a part of me.
The mentality of a victim could be our biggest hurdle to success.
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| R.C | PostPosted: Thu Oct 06, 2016 3:45 pm | |
| Offline | | Ask a mod for a custom title |  | Joined: Thu Oct 13, 2011 1:53 pm Posts: 5428 Location: Romania | | It is victim mentality and that tends to be a trait of people that have nothing going for themselves. So relationships tend to be their lifejackets.
If you're at least relatively successful career wise and have a good group a friends, losing a girl wont be the end of the world. But if a girl is your entire world.. well.
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| Eddie Fews | PostPosted: Thu Oct 06, 2016 5:25 pm | |
| Offline | | Read My Book |  | Joined: Thu Jun 27, 2013 8:08 pm Posts: 5028 Website: http://www.EddieFews.com Location: New York City | | Its pure scarcity.
If you're fired from a job and you have no other options or skills outside of the ones you learned at the job you will be a wreck. Not knowing how you will eat and provide shelter for yourself.
If you know there are 15 other companies emailing you weekly waiting to hire you, you won't bat an eye after being fired.
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| Jay (Majik) | PostPosted: Fri Oct 14, 2016 5:23 am | |
| Offline | | The Coach |  | Joined: Sun Jun 19, 2011 7:44 am Posts: 4170 Location: Chicago, IL | | You need new hobbies and interests. Go to the gym. Thats a great hobby to have.
Take up a sport or an instrument. Take a yoga class.
Simply put, get a life.
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