Okay.

I have developed my one-itis ( 2 months ) for this one girl, with who I study, and find it hard to game other girls because I like her so much. We are constantly together, have the best time together, we are actual a "couple", but the problem is that she has a boyfriend back home ( 3 years ) where she lives.
At first it didn't bother me, but now it starts.. I started to fall in love. She says it is tearing her apart to make a decision between me and him. ( I'm not forcing her to do that, I rarely talk about it, but she is also stuck with he problem. She feels like she is not being honest to him. )

How should I act when she will make a decision in 2 weeks? Turn around in the sweet guy ( which I already did a tiny bit ) to show her how much I love her and care for her or try to "not care". How should I act when she talks about the fact that she's sad that she has to make a decision? I'm going through the most difficult time of my life I guess. I cannot control anything.

Can anybody give me some advice?

Vedere

Dude, your frame is ripped to shreds. You are the only person in charge of your emotions. You are the only person in control of your life. You don't deserve to be dragged around by this chick who is too much of a child to make a decision. She NEEDS to make a decision sooner than later. You NEED to force her hand, even at the risk of losing her. Don't start acting like a sap. You have pants on? On the left and right are pockets. If you put your hands in them, about an inch in either direction should be a penis. Use it.

If she decides to be with the other guy, what are you going to do? Be a recluse, a sappy, emasculated punk? No. You're going to pick yourself up and go pick up someone else. There's more where she came from.

It sucks, but decisions need to be made some times. You asked for advice, you've just gotten some of mine, let's see what some others have to say.

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Life is a game. Win.

V, are you two having sex? If not, move on to other girls immediately. If you are, then she has basically already broke things off with her b/f. I'm guessing he doesn't know about you two.

If you're not having sex, she's got emotions tied up with you, but she's stringing you along, and most likely will break it off with you anyway. She'll cry and say she's hurt and all that stuff, but the fact is, she WILL get over it. She's been with him 3 years. Apparently she's missing the mental and/or emotional connection with him, which you are supplying, so you are supplocating her. Stop.

If you two are having sex, then it's time to put your foot down. However, considering the post you've made here, I doubt she sees you as a leader. More likely just a good friend, even with benefits, IF you two are having sex.

YOU start moving on right now.

2 weeks !?!?

Man... I really know how your feeling, and to be honest, if you actually love this girl, hang in there but if she lets you down, Don't look back.

Best of Luck man.

There's no "hanging in there" man. Sorry to say, but this girl is just using you. You might not believe it, hell, she probably wouldn't even believe it, but it's true. You are simply an emotional crutch for her; filling the physical lack of her boyfriend.

I know you are going to resist this idea, but think about it. Why would this choice be so difficult for her if she really felt about you the way she says. Do you think it would be this difficult if her boyfriend wasn't far away? More than likely, she would drop you like a bad habit. I mean, do you really like the idea of spending all day with her and putting all this emotional investment into the relationship and then have her calling her bf at night saying how much she misses him and loves him?

Dude, you don't deserve that. Don't put yourself through that and don't put her through that. You need to tell her to make a decision, not in two weeks, TOMORROW. She's had enough time and now that time is up. By making her choose, you are giving her a chance to make the right decision (to be with you because you're awesome), but you will also be doing both of you a favor. Who knows what can happen later in life, but by continuing this secret relationship in limbo, you're only hurting each other.

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-That's my two cents...

Thanks for replies.

I just broke up with her, and said, then when she will return in 3 weeks, we will see how things can work out.

Bah. Hurts. She is great.

If she cheats on him, she'll cheat on you. Just remember that.

yeah saq. good tip. does it once shell do it again.

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Chappy

Okay all,

I was stubborn and didn't follow your advice. Just held on.. and held on.. Damn it was hard..

And yes, she has chosen for me. She left the guy.

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The only verdict is vengeance; a vendetta, held as a votive, not in vain, for the value and veracity of such shall one day vindicate the vigilant and the virtuous ; so let me simply add that it's my very good honor to meet you and you may call me V.

I feel really bad for the other guy =(

But good for you.

Congrats bro. Im happy for you. sometimes it pays off not to listen to the guys on here, other times it does