Im rubbish at building sexual tension so how do i?

For example if i was with a girl and i invited her back to mine and said

"Now just because im inviting you back to mine that doesnt give you an excuse to try and sleep with me"

or would i just get a slap or would i have to build the sexual tension up to say something like that?

would that be creating sexual tension?. I think my fear is that i may offend them somehow.

All help appreciated

Beno

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im the type of guy that likes to rome around,im never in one place, i rome from town to town, im a wonderer, yeh a wonderer, im a wonderer....

Yeah, that shouldnt get you slapped at all. After all, if youre at that stage, shes probably warmed up to you allready. But there should be sexual tension before you get to the point where you get her back to your place.

That was just one idea i came up with, but to be honest, i cant build the sexual tension up that much to say that so this is where i need help , obvious this comes down to my conversation skills too but being able to start it off right away would be good too??? So all help is appreciated

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im the type of guy that likes to rome around,im never in one place, i rome from town to town, im a wonderer, yeh a wonderer, im a wonderer....

Well, basically it starts with the initiation of kino, id assume, which escalates as your conversation progresses, and after you state your intent to her, that you find her sexy and that you are infact letting her specifically know that you do see her as a sexual interest, she will feel comfortable showing you her sexual interest as well. Now, thats not sexual tension per se, but its clearly a prerequisite for it. Now the tension part comes in when you have a barrier to bounce this off of, like the fact that youre in a public area where you cant just rip eachothers clothes off.

If that makes any sense... :< ? Maybe some other and better explanations will come along to help you out .

But read the ebooks, see how they explain it, and go out and give them all a try, see what fits you, and try to understand the underlying concept of what works and more importantly WHY it works.

Hi Beno,

It's all about kino, man. First start with the gentle, platonic touch... then the hair petting... before you know it, you're petting and kissing.

Sexual escalation is impossible without kino escalation in my book.


Respectfully,

M

Ill tell you a funny routinei use if shes wearing lipstick or lipgloss.
Girl -> Guy

Omg youre wearing lipstick or lipgloss?

Lipstick, lipgloss! whatever bla bla

I knew it! does it leave a mark?

Bla bla, yes no, bla

Really? lets see! *point to cheak, and tilt head so she can kiss it* than when she does kiss you, ask her: "did it leave a mark?"

no not really bla bla

Oh thats great!, that means i can kiss you now!, *lean over and kiss her*


Try it!

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Its about:

Kino
Earlystarting and fastescalating Kino

Frame
Have a very sexual frame, misinterept what she says in a sexual way, kidding in a sexual way, give her shameful offers

Visualization
I use to imagine in the head that I fuck the girl hard while im talking to her.

Read Gunwitch Method

EDIT

You can use the the Evolution Phase Shift routine by Style

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To reiterate what everybody said:
Kino... yup.

I also like the Swedish guy bringing up frame.
Turning around everything she says, in a sexual way.
David Deangelo says that in his Cocky Comedy CD set.

Other than that, remember 2 other things:

1) Constant push-pull, 2 steps forward, 1 step back.

2) Create barriers to overcome.

I'll give David D. credit for #1, and Wayne Elise credit for #2.
I already did this kind of stuff before I read these guys works,
but they just increased my understanding of them.

For 1, it's just all about giving something, then taking it away.
You get an IOI, you move forward, escalate... then back down a bit.
Then start escalating again, a little further than before... then back down a bit.

For 2, I would suggest reading Wayne Elise's book.
Basically, cause he'll be able to explain it better than me.
Simply put, it's just about getting the girl to a point,
then putting a barrier in the way of going further.
Something small, easily overcome.

This is why I think it works:
Women will often find barriers quickly, to stunt your game.
When you find, or create, a barrier before they do, it throws them off.
They think, "I'm supposed to be in control... what's going on?"
"Why doesn't he want to make a move on me?"
It throws off their game.

Various barriers normally include ".....but there's too many people around."
or "This is bad... we probably shouldn't be doing this."
or "I barely know you."
Use with care.

Hope this helps.

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Thankyou for help, that has cleared some stuff up.

feel free to keep adding to post though.

Beno

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im the type of guy that likes to rome around,im never in one place, i rome from town to town, im a wonderer, yeh a wonderer, im a wonderer....