Im stuck in a hard place right now. I went out with this girl for 4 years when i was younger and just recently she has come back into my life. Its hard for me to run anything on her because of our past. I find myself slipping back into an AFC when i talk to her. I have no problem running game on females i dont have or had feelings for but theres just so much of a past there. I battle back and forth with myself on how to approach this. Should i be the guy she fell for the first time(AFC) or should i use all the teachings ive learned. Shes recently out of a relationship and is tentative to see but it doesnt help that she live 2 hours away so theres no casual thing i can do with her. I know she wants to but theres slight resistance for some odd reason. Anyway there is way more to this story but i dont want to write a book so if you have some suggestions im all ears and if you want to get more in depth with my problem id really appreciate it.My email is posted if so.

Thanks boys!

I was in a similar situation a couple of months back. I had started gaming one of my ex's from a couple of years back. There was no doubt that i was an AFC when i went out with her, however this time i was very C&F. I met up with her and she kept on trying to hold my hand and begging me to forgive her. In the end i realised i was better than her and decided to end it there. In your case i would defiantly use C&F.

Yes, use what you learned.
Personally, I have a rule of not talking to exes, but I only have 2 so it's not like it's hard, lol

you have oneitis. You remember the special feeling that your relationship with her evoked.

Either internalize that or don't try to run game on her.

once you have made contact with an ex and you realiase she is interested again, ignore her. i did this to my ex and it drive her nuts. she loved being in control in our realtionship and i let her. plus recently i went back to being afc which has lead her to ignore me which drove me crazy until i realised what was up.i am in the process of cutting her out of my life now becuase life is about moving forward and growing.i hope this helps.

Regards,

bjjwarrior

i agree with all the previous posts.

of course there is resistance fom your ex. she's thinking a bunch of things, should i start this up again, what if i get hurt(again?), does he still like me.
she's remembering all the good and bad points of your past relationship.

what do you have to gain her? is it worth the trouble or effort?

thanks bro i really appreciate the help. With everyday situations im great at but this has so many dynamics i thought it would be best to ask some advice. I know if i hangout with her its over but the hard part is finding a reason to be 2 hours away from home.