You've probably heard it 1000 times..."If i knew then what i know now..."

Lets examine that phrase and what it means for you psychologiclly

For the sake of arguement we will use the phrase in referense to women, but it doesnt matter the philosophie can be applied to whatever the phrase can be applied to.

So close your eyes and imagine if you will, this girl from your past. She was everything that you wanted and soo much more. Sparks are flying but for some reason things dont work out the way you'd like. You say something wrong, she moves away, she has a boyfriend...w/e. You know it was something special and your friends argee, and you find yourself thinking back and saying to yourself, "If only i knew then what i know now...".

You drift deeper into this day dream and imagine what itd be like had you known all this stuff. You woulda ended up kissing her, haveing sex with her, going out with her, etc. You imagine holding hands and exchanges of intimate moments...everything is rainbows and sunshine....then all the sudden like a tornado dropping from the sky you get pulled to reality by the simple fact that it wont ever happen that way, its been done and the resounding fact is that you didnt know then what you know now and you fucked it up. Now you just feel bad, negative.

Now instead lets look at this scenario...you look back at the same relationship, you take note of exactly where things went wrong and also note what went right. After analyzing the scenario you feel better knowing that you learned something from it and wont make the mistake again, whatever that may be. Much better right?

So here is the essence. The "If i knew..." philosophy always dead ends at feeling negative because you realize it cant be undone, whereas looking back at something, realizing the mistakes, and analyzeing things in an logical manner leads to growth.

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"Be the same, only better."

This is an excellent concept Ka. As well all know hindsight is 20/20. When I first read Mystery Method and I was skeptical of the methods. I remembered my past relationships as to what worked and what didn't. When I looked back and I mentally applied the method I could see it working. That's ultimately what convinced me that the theory was sound. Although in field experience later proved that as well.

Learning from your past relationships and analyzing them to the point you know what you should have done, and what went wrong. Its a great tool to use and it can't only make you better.

Another good post Ka!

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Yea i came up with this theory a night or 2 ago right b4 i went to bed, it just hit me and i had to post it

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-Ka-
"Be the same, only better."

i totally agree Ka...with any relationship thats fucked up before i have found that it has made me into who i am today..you learn from previous mistakes and grow into something better..its not to cry over, and if you have the same sort of attitude into a current relationship it could take some stress off..instead of freaking out about where things are going, you cn just sit back relax and let things flow..and well if things fuck up..you will come out a better person than when you went in..

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