If you knew that a girl's boyfriend calls her a lot and acts needy, would it be okay if you talked about your ex who called you a lot and sort of bash her for doing it? I know when you BF destroy, you're not supposed to say negative things about her boyfriend, but would talking about something your ex did (knowing that her boyfriend does it too) count as saying something negative about her boyfriend?

Also, this is assuming that she doesn't know that I know about him calling too much. But either way, would it matter if she knew?

I think that's good, long as you tread carefully and bring it up inconspicuously.

I think it could, if you think of it in NLP terms. Like relating what your saying about your ex to her BF and making her realise his bad points. But then again it might make her think that what he is doing/like is totally normal. But im not sure, i know little about NLP. Im sure RJ has lots of material on BF destroying.
The problem is women love the drama, so often the BFs bad behavior makes them more attached to him, and there's strong attraction re-built when they make up. Best when their BF bores them.

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Try saying something like "I had this ONE girlfriend" or something to prevent her thinking it was normal, just something negative and out of the ordinary that happened to you too.

I probably wouldn't directly bash her (actually I'd probably defend her), but I'd say it in a way so that your target would draw negative conclusions. For example, I might say something like "Yeah, I had an ex that used to call me all of the time like that. It's not really her fault though because she was at a time in her life where she was insecure about herself and her worth in a relationship."... something like that... I feel like directly bashing her and calling her needy might be a DLV for you. Why would a man of high value date someone that he doesn't respect?

Thanks guys. I learned a lot in this thread.