I work with this girl that's an HB 9. She's kind of high-maintenance in that she always has her hair and makeup done up and always looks hot but at the same time she's really down to earth and gets along with everyone. She's also really flirty with me but also with a lot of the guys at work. We hung out a while back, it went well but nothing too exciting happened (it was before I started reading about pua). Then she was supposed to come out for my birthday back in January which I had been telling her about for weeks but then she flaked out at the last minute. After that I was standoffish to her for a few weeks which I think bothered her since she seems like the kind of person that wants everyone to like them. She then wanted me to go with her to watch the band of a guy we work with play. I lied and told her I wasn't sure if I would be able to go (this was about 2 weeks before the show). She seemed surprised and said something like "you don't want to go with me?" probably because she isn't used to guys blowing her off. I told her I'd get back to her. She asked again the next week and I told her I'd go only if she bought the tickets, which she agreed to. She started being a lot more flirty with me at work and our texts got more flirty as well. Well the day of the show I didn't see her at work but I figured she would call or text me after she got off. I made a decision that I was not going to contact her, that she should contact me. Well I never heard from her until the next night she texted me something like "what happened to you last night" which I didn't respond to. I didn't see her at work for a couple days, but when I did she asked again what happened to me the other night and I responded "what happened to YOU the other night?" kind of in a cocky manner. It definitely put her on the defensive and had her kind of trying to qualify herself to me. Later that day she flirty texted me which I ignored, then a little later she texted something like "what, no response" which I also ignored. Then when she saw me she was like "what, you don't respond to my texts anymore?" and I acted like I didn't realize she had texted me but then I read them in front of her and we laughed about her text for a few seconds then I left. What I realized is that I had felt like she had blown me off about the show, but I think she felt that I blew her off. Since then our texts have become more frequent but still sporadic (a bunch one day, then a few the next day, then no texts for a few days) but also a lot more flirty and sexual including talking about giving each other oral. I showed a few of the guys at work some of our texts and apparently even though she flirts with a lot of them she doesn't do it with them to the extent that she does with me. The only bad thing about the texting is that it seems like she hardly ever initiates the texts--she does once in a while but it's usually me. But she almost always responds to my texts and then it goes back and forth. And when I didn't text her for about a week, she told me that she missed my texts. We did end up hanging out at a bar a couple weeks ago with my friends and her friends. It seemed like it went well except it seemed like her married friend was hitting on me. They were both flirty and posed provacatively for pictures from me. When I saw her at work a few days later she kept saying how much fun she had and that we need to hang out again soon. I'm just wondering what's the best way to go after her from here on out? Am I wasting my time or do I have a real shot? I'm trying to figure out if she's just a big tease and flirt or if there is some real interest and attraction on her part. Also, what should I have done differently? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

she seems like a flirt, but if shes flirting MORE with you than the others i tink you have a solid chance. Step up your game, kino, DHV, and make her want you...if shes into you you'll get her, if shes not as into as you thought...it was good practice at least but i think you can pull it off, keep good body language and eye contact as well, dont forget those key things

For some strange reason I love dating girls that I work with. It's not the best thing to do imho, unless your job is not that important to you and you could get anther one easy. I think it's the excitement of seeing someone you work with and keeping it secret- I like to spin it into a conspiracy.

So, here's what I would do- find a way to tell her that you got a bit turned off about going out with her because you work together and wouldn't want people at work to think you had a thing or anything- you have to sort of spin this into a neg too- like 'I wouldn't want people to think I was dating you'- but then build her back up by saying you think she's cool or whatever, and that you would like to hang out some time- but that you want to keep it secret- between you and her.

Try and plan something, but tell her it's got to be a secret and no one else at work can know. Play of the whole covert thing- even take it to another level and tell her that at work you should pretend to be in a fight or something. Try and make up some good role play that you can act out at work. Also make sure that your intentions outside of work are sexual- when your at work ignore her sexually- but when your in your 'secret spot' bring on some serious keno- never touch her you could be seen at work, but when your both alone next to the copy machine or walk in freezer grab her wrist and lightly squeeze it and let go quickly then look at her and give a wink and walk away.

I bet she'll love it too.