| Hi all!
It happened to me for a while that I was unconsiously a natural PUA ... let me explain...
I've never been very lucky with girls ... I had a couple of girlfriends during my life, but I've always been very shy and insecure so it would be fair to say I made those girlfriends accidentally or spontaneously.
The thing is I married one of these girls... long story.... and 2 years later she left me, and we got divorced... I was 26 years old at this point . After my grieving process was over and I put myself back together, I started going out again...mostly looking for sex, but had no intentions of getting into another LTR (long term relationship). And apparently those 2 years living with a girl definitely changed something in my personality, cause now I was getting really lucky with girls. For a moment, I was a natural.
The problem became when I started getting lucky at work (my ex and I worked in the same office). This was something new for me, I've never been so lucky with women in my life, so I was going to take as much advantage as possible while it lasted... And I did quite of a mess... 3 months after I decided to have fun like crazy, I was working in an office cubicle, and in a radius of 15 meters I already had an ex wife, an ex girlfriend, an ex lover (with whom I cheated on my ex girlfriend, never cheated on my ex wife) and 2 one night stand coworkers, ranging from 5s to 8s.
But, there was an inconvenience... even though I explicitly alerted the girls that I wasn't looking for LTR and they agreed, in the end they all wanted a LTR.... They drove me crazy. They made it really hard for me to "break up", even though we weren't really into a relationship. Two of them got really depressed and wouldn't stop calling me and showing up at my house to try to convince me to go back with them... including my ex wife.
I really hated to let them down, because I really loved them (they were my friends) and they are really nice people, but I wasn't emotionally ready for another relationship at that moment... in fact I think I'm still not ready... I only want to have fun now.
But letting down all these girls made me feel a little guilty for a while and I decided to stop...I think that's when I lost my "natural" PUAism. I'm back to being the shy and insecure guy that is not lucky with women.
So, here is my question...
How do I keep the friendship relationship without letting the girl down? If possible, how do I keep the friendship relationship andthe right to have sex with the girl... sex buddies... that's what I'm looking for. Is there a way to convience them that we could be sex buddies while they look for their "fairy tale prince"????
I've seen tons of material on how to approach, attract, game, seduce and finally have sex with a girl... but what's next?
I mean, being a PUA, you're supposed to be picking up girls as much as you can, so basically none of those girls would be your permanent girlfriend....
Has anybody seen any material that would help me on this aspect? It would be awesome to hear some stories from the big guys in this subject.
Take care mates
Rod
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