Met HB8.5 on tinder (excellent app 2 fcloses, using since late April).She's 24. Smart phd student who works in the high rise next to mine. I'm 28 and a young professional.

We set up after work drinks nearby at 6pm (inner city melbourne). Things go well and I suggest spontaneous dinner. She agrees. Dinner and flowing conversation for another 2hrs. Not much kino since it was close our workplaces and some girls can be nervous about being seen but I did playfully punch, nudge and hold her hand across the road like she was a lost child.

I have to cut the date at 4hrs as I need to go back to work at 10 (I work doctors hours). I walk her to the light rail and as her tram comes I think she leans in for a peck on the lips but i was already aiming for cheek (I don't tinder kiss on first meet and she had 3 wines so I didn’t want to deal with buyers remorse).

Later that night I text her:

Me at 23:00ish – Home ok? Worried. There are wolves out and you have no sense of direction (inside joke)

Her at 23:30ish – Home ok. Watched out for wolves going through chapel st and all. I did ride in the squalid carriage though so very risky. Thank you for a lovely dinner.

I didn’t feel the need to respond to that text and left it. Was pretty busy the next day at work and only text her late at night with:

Following evening
Me at 21:15ish – Hey Boxhead. Here’s thatworkout song I said I’d send you [youtube link]

Her at 22:00 – Hey Bigears. That gets my approval but its true what you say about it being a workout song. It has an drugged out star gazing vibe to it. I’d show you some of my embarrassing 90s ska workout music but I’m worried you’ll get scared….

Me at 22:45 (I realize I responded after 45mins like she did but it was unintentional) – You can talk. Everyone knows 90s ska was all about speedballs and hard drugs. Don’t worry I wont judge you for your fedora and goldfinger collection. I’d like some new workout music for tomorrow

….and almost 24 hours later nothing. My plan was to set up a date 2 after quick banter but she’s gone cold. I understand she uses tinder so she probably has an avalanche of offers (she's tall, blonde, works out and educated) but how would you guys proceed here?

Sounds like you've built a lot of comfort in a short amount of time, which is good! From here, you tell her you've got a few free hours on thursday, or on saturday. Then ask her which day works better for her? If she says she can't do anything on either day, she's not interested anymore. If she says she can't do anything, but suggests a different day, then she is. At this point, we're getting away from the texting, and getting a face to face interaction going again. So, just go for the kill and see if she's willing to do something with you on your terms.

Best of luck


-Ruggedized

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