| Hello my fellow PUAs. The reason why I opened this thread is because what I'm seeing is people are taking this PUA thing way too seriously. It's okay to buy material, or get coaching. It's fine, you want to get this part of your life fixed, and you are willing to put your money and your time on it. That's great. But... some threads, especially here in the longue are a bit too much.
I couldn't find it, but I remember the other day I found something where people were discussing "What kind of jobs are alpha" and that you should avoid "beta jobs". And this really pisses me off.
First of all, it is pretty obvious that the most attractive jobs are: professional pick-up guru, authorities, and the jobs which allows lots of travelling.
But even more importantly, it is outright ignorant to make your choice of profession depending on how it would help you getting laid. Such a life decision should be based on strong inner motivation. Else you're going to hate your own life and you won't get laid, not even with an MD in front of your name.
Besides that, you can have a job that's not too exciting for other people and still pull a lot. For example my friend's dad is about in his 50s. He is an informatician/mathematician and a natural. He pulls so many women that most guys here would be ashamed that "the geeky guy" has 100 times better game than them.
And it's not just jobs... I see it everywhere. Stupid questions everywhere...
"Does a tattoo improve my badass factor?"
"Suit or gangsta?"
"Is scuba diving/wall climbing/whatever else as a hobby a DHV?"
The list goes on... And now I get to the main point, and in the end there is one thing that I think is important to note because it comes with the mindset, but it is a relatively different thing.
And the point is, the mindset is wrong.
It's not specific things in your life that you should try achieving to improve your chances. You should focus on what you like doing and improve yourself in those areas, because that's what can make you happy. This will also result in that you meet girls with similar interests as you, vastly improving the chances of building a connection. When gurus tell you to improve your life, they don't mean that you should change your interests, or taste in things. That's just stupid. What they mean is to find the lifestyle that fits you and unleashes your full potential. Usually, a happy man is a confident one.
And now that other things...
It is rating women. I found it to be counterproductive for me to rate women because once a woman hit high on the scale(9 or 10), subconciously she used to be already on a pedestal. Now I understand that for some people this may not be an issue, hell nowadays it probably wouldn't matter much to me either... But it's still a risk. And this is not even the biggest problem. The problem is, that some guys have this delusion from the Mystery Method, that you should game extremely hot women differently than avarage or ugly girls. And this is just ridiculous. There is no theory behind this. Absolutely none. While I agree with Mystery on many points, this is one of the few where I don't. Because it's clear that Mystery made up some bullshit that the hot girls get hit on a lot so they have a higher self-esteem, so they require different approach, but anyone who's ever met a real hot girl knows that they are just as insecure as every other girl. Also, the avarage girls get hit on a lot more because guys don't fear them so much. Hot girls might get whistles and wolf shouts more but I wouldn't consider that "hitting on". And not to mention, this entire rating thing is completely subjective.
Another thing is that to some extent you game all women the same way, and to more extents you game all of them differently. This is completely irrelevant to her looks, this is all about calibration.
In conclusion: rating girls isn't helpful in any way, moreover it has its risks, especially for the beginners.
Now all of these problems have one source:
Taking this way too seriously
This is the reason. It's one thing to focus on pick-up, and another thing is to put everything(including common sense) away. Lots of people here need to chill the fuck out. Put their books/videos/other material away. Stop completing the newbie mission for the 6th time in a row, stop thinking about what DHVs and what DLVs, and start LIVING. Stop looking at women like some robots on what if the correct buttons are pushed, her legs will open, and start appreciating them as HUMAN BEINGS. They are just like us in many sense. They have hopes in life, they have goals, they have different taste in men, they have their insecurities, etc...
If I opened only one eye, this thread wasn't useless. I also expect other experienced members to share their views and thoughts on this.
Peace,
In$tinct
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CHAT
) and you see exactly the same thing especially on forums. You get one group that are into it as a lifestyle and the other group who are into it as a sport. The latter group get where they are by buying stuff. Changing your job because you think it might get you laid, getting a tattoo you don't care about (I'm into tattoos and "fashion" tattoos really piss me off, especially as they are usually shit), etc is the equivalent of that.
