I broke up a month ago, I have a severe case of oneitis, cannot forget!!
she was my only gf I have ever had and the only girl with who i had sex.

THere's several ways of getting over one-titus. Mystery's would be go bang 1,000 chicks. My method that worked great for me would be:

1) Imagine something riculous about your girlfriend.
2) Stop speaking to her and stop seeing her.
3) Accept that she broke up with you and do other things to get your mind of her.
4) As time goes by you'll start noticing you start to not think about her that much.
5) As more you pick out something stupid about her; maybe a mole or something she did to annoy you. You'll then begin to forget her quickly.

See, you head is constantly reminding you of how great of a girlfriend she was. Was she if she broke up with you? You're subconscious mind is possibly reminding you of your flaw which is possibly heart ache. The reason why you can't stop thinking about her is because 1) You reminence about her. 2) You still want to believe you have another chance with her.

There will be other women 10 times better than her. Try saying this to yourself with confidence and power. "I am worthy of meeting anyone better than [her name]." Say this 10 times for about 2 weeks. This will cure the one-titus and make you believe that the next person you meet will be better than her. This is power over the mind with Affirmations.

Say this 10 times in the morning when you wake up, evening after dinner or something, and before you goto bed. Try it out-it'll work! I had many one-tituses for this HB's I loved and it helped me alot.

It could be possible that you're still angry and hurt over the break up. Write down on paper all the things you're mad at and what pissed her off. this is placing your anger and disgust on paper. When you're done then burn it or tear it up or something to get it out of you.

So there's three methods or four actually.

1) Fucking alot of women to get her off your mind.
2) Thinking something ridiculous things about her to get your mind off hter.
3) Using affirmations to get your mind off her.
4) Displacing your hurt and anger on paper then destroying it!

Tell me how they worked out for ya!

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I already broke up with her multiple times, the relationship doesnt work, she did a lot of bad things to me, and even I already made this same topic a year ago in this same forum.

Why my mind doenst understand!!!

Great advice Stealth!

I just wanted to add that it helped me realized that I'm better of after focusing on things about her that used to annoy me.

There are many other opportunities now for you, and I don't mean just other girls you can hook up with. Just thinking about all the stuff you wanted to do and you couldn't because she was holding you back will make you feel relieved that you're single now.

Now that every night can be a boys night out, take advantage of that. You're gonna be a little rusty talking to girls now, but that's where hanging out with your buddies helps out. You're not learning the game like some, you're just getting back in it, and you're gonna need bunch of training. So that's how you need to approach the initial interaction with girls, just training, a refreashment course if you will.

And under no circumstances let your ex see that you're crushed. It is definetly the best to cut all the contacts, but I'm sure you guys have some mutual friends that will tell her about what's going on with you and vice-versa. Make sure that she hears that you have moved on, took up a new hobby, doing good at school/work/sports and that you're going out all the time and meeting girls.

That's when she'll realize that she might have made a mistake, and contact you in some way to maybe reconsider or at least make sure you're not taking it better than she is. Now here's a key, the colder you reject her the more you can tell herself that you are over her at this point. It might take a few weeks, but it's an exilirating experience.

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You're addicted to her pussy! LOL! I'm just messing. No, seriously it takes awhile for you forget a girl. Write down on paper all the hateful and things that she did to piss you off. Burn it or tear it up. It seems like you're pissed and hurt by it. It could be a obsession that could be faded over time. Just make fun of her inside your head and make her look stupid in your head. You'll forget her over time.

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thank you guys, I'm crying like a true AFC now. but I guess It's for the best .

Try going to play racket ball. You get to smash a ball at the wall and it will never break. Great frustration reliever and you kind of have to focus on the game or you will get hit...and it hurts. Give it a try.

Say 'im worthy of meeting.....10 times every morning'.
That sounds pretty fucked up if you ask me.
Its not gonna help him take his mind off her.

I'd just like to add: get rid of things that remind you of her, for example if she bought you a gift, sell it, put it aside, throw it away or whatever. Do new things and switch up your routime abit. If you got your mind occupied on other things your not gonna be thinking about her, so keep busy. But what you really need is to meet another great girl, forcus on her

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Wow! Didn't I say something similair to that? I think so! The affirmation was a NLP trick to convince the mind that it's okay to meet other women and possibly will take the mind off her. His mind is constantly thinking of her so which he has to stop because down deep inside he feels like he won't meet another beautiful woman like her. So what he needs to do is trick his mind into thinking that he will meet someone better than than her by using affirmations. Got me? Good!

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I still dont like it stealth.
The idea is to stop thinking about her, so he can get over her. And saying that 10 times aday aint gonna help take his mind off her. Got me? Good!

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What do you suggest that would help him better?

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Wow, I kind of agree with both Stealth and mozyFresh here. Having recently gotten through a serious break-up myself, I might have some light to shed on this situation.
I agree that he needs to see this as an opportunity to alter and strengthen his frame. From my own experience, I didn't think that I wouldn't be able to meet another beautiful woman like the one I lost, but I still felt a sense of loss because she was such a huge part of my life.
I also agree that he needs to stop thinking about her and that having a regimented "affirmation time" may not be the best option. However, it is inevitable that the ex is going to be on his mind - more than he would like. I know it did with mine. My ex would creep into my thoughts when I least expected it. Especially when I was out of distractions to keep my thoughts pre-occupied. In the shower, driving in the car, and laying in bed were the worst times for me.

My solution: Be conscious of your thoughts and whenever you feel them drift to your ex and you get that pang of bad emotions, switch your frame as recommended by Stealth. Otherwise, just try to keep your thoughts and emotions occupied with things that are actually worth your time.

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Thanks Sardon. It's all about changing your FRAME. You could also change your frame but putting the negative experience into something ridiclous or something more into the postive light.

Say for example: she broke your heart several times and cheated on you or whatever. Now, to change your "frame", you'll take a look at the situation in itself and tell yourself, "I've learned something major out of this lesson and next time I won't repeat the same mistakes." By accepting the break up and commiting to change it into doing something positive will eventually have her image fade. I've changed my "frame" of thinking I was a loser or whatever at work when I got yelled at by my boss. I changed it by thinking, "Well they gave me several changes and they believe in me to succeed in the company." This changed my motivation to work harder and built up confidence. WHat you're experiencing is a "Crashed Frame". A Crashed frame is when your "Frame" is fucked up and causes you to feel depressed. With this crashed frame in mind, you'll constantly bring up all the memories and shit like that. So changed your "frame" and reframe that awful experience. It's possible and can be done. Thanks again Sardon for supporting me. I really appreciate it! I'm glad you got over your ex as well because I know how hard it can be. Peace out!

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wow man you sound like my firend he cant get over his gf either. This is what you do (it worked for me and others i know) block her out of ur life delete screen names, phone numbers, pictures, etc just get rid of anything that reminds you of her and dont pick up her calls or go near the places she might be at. Do all that you should get over her soon just go do other things get ur mind off her shes no worth it there are plently more out there... I should know i got out of a 2 year relationship few years back and i was trashed and felt like shit all day and night but trust me going out with other girls will make you feel like a king... Good luck

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