So a friend of mine makes plans with me for the whole weekend instead of bringing her boyfriend, she asks me to go. That's cool and all, but when the time comes to go out...she leaves me hanging 2 days in a row with no phone call to tell me. Now I can't get her to answer me. What the fuck is her problem? I seriously doubt its the BF because she doesn't speak enthusiastically about and seems pretty complacent about it. (Just wanted to eliminate that suggestion.)

what a women says and think are 2 totally different things. Bear this in mind.
Isn't it possible that she is occasionally annoyed by her BF, but she does still love him. Maybe there was a guilt feeling after she told you she wanted to spend to weekend with you.

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ice_melter

Thanks for the reply, but I really doubt the BF is the issue. In fact, I'm certain of it. There is just a particular way people talk about GFs and BFs that I do not hear or see. The relationship won't last much longer. (like a first date that hasn't ended.)

How does she talk about her BF? In a funny way? Or and negative way?

I've got a GF myself and I make fun of her 60% of the time (even to my friends). I don't want want to be the clingy boyfriend that says "Never wanna lose you" etc etc. BUT I still love her, I just have my own way to express myself.

Just take a chill pill, I know its tough, but remember, you are a PUA

Boredom and a lack of caring. Just complacent and she usually says thing like "I miss the single life" and "This isn't going to last long".

how do you react when she talks bad about her BF

tbfh I don't think I know what I should say in that situation

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Freeze her out. Sarge up some other girls. She will contact you when shes ready. If she calls and says she wants to hang out, don't. Be busy. Shes going to keep doing this to you. She is just doing it to get the attention her BF is not giving her.

When she brings up the BF, I don't really react. Just some generalized questions and she just gives answers. I don't really try to BF destroy. From what she tells me, he seems insecure about the relationship and he should be. I get the complete feeling that the whole thing is stagnant. With the edition that he moved in with her and her roommate after maybe two months of dating. She basically told me that if they do break up, "where would he go, just out of the apartment?" So things are just going south. But as I said; the BF is just not an issue of concern. Thanks for the replies.

I frankly wouldn't call her again. If you happen to run into her, I wouldn't even bring this up. Doing so makes you look needy regardless if she was a inconsiderate bitch. If she brings it up and mentions some lame excuse, I'd pass it off and just say it's all good that you had a friend invite you to some cool ass party/event/etc and you had a awesome time so things worked out for the best.