So I was dating this girl last year, we were close, broke up on good terms because i was leaving the university. We kept in touch for a while after and then inevitably, lost touch.

Most recently we spoke online, and i fired off a couple of our inside jokes and whatnot and wasn't getting much of a reaction. i thought something was up and sure enough, she says its been so long that she feels like she doesnt know me anymore.

I aint gonna lie, that hurt. i mean, we spent every day n night together for what.. 5 months?? At the risk of sounding corny, not seeing her all this time has made me realise i want her back. Yeah yeah one-itis, i dont give a shit, i definitely want this one. But i feel i gotta be tactical about it. After that msn convo i fell back and called her a couple weeks later. She didn't answer, opting to text me the next day, with a couple generic texts exchanged.

So now, I'm thinking to bring it to e-mail level. I'm not gonna try call her again, because i dont think she'll answer.

Basically if you were me, what would the email look like?

Thanks, any help is much appreciated

i thinks its a good thing she said she feels like she dosent know you anymore.... you can start game all over and you already know what she likes and what not.

Dude, this is a PUA forum, and you have a case of one-itis for this girl. What do you think our advice would be? She ain't the only one. "Her bowel movements don't smell like lilacs," as our friend xfman would say. Go out and sarge!

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I'm in agreement with socal, but don't treat her like she is the only girl in youir life.

First off, you say that you want to get back in touch with her. Please don't tell me you're trying to strike up a long distance thing. If so, you've got the one-itis BAD. It would be better to put it on pause until you could actually be with her.

And here's the main problem with the whole one-itis situation and you saying that you don't care if you have it. One-itis in and of itself is naturally hard-wired into us as human beings. It is the beginning stages of pair bonding. The problem with one-itis is that it will alter your behavior to make you act like you are a couple, when in reality, you haven't built any of the stages for pair bonding to take place.

This turns a woman off quicker than if you slapped your dick on the table in front of her. The reason the community always says "go out and sarge" if you start to get one-itis is because if you can see your other options, and you stop "caring," you will automatically increase your value to the one you wanted in the first place. It's a win-win exploring other options. You won't drive her away with your neediness and if things don't work out (how you think they should right NOW), then you have other options to fall back on.

Keep in contact if you must, but keep your distance. Remember that you are HER prize. She must earn your attention and affection. Not the other way around.

But that's the thing, we dated for half the year and were super tight. There were days where we didn't even see other people, just stayed in bed all day. I don't understand this "its been so long i feel like i dont know you anymore". How can you say that to someone you were supertight with just a few months back?

You're right, a long distance thing wouldn't work. I'm gonna have to do my thing till the time's right....

I'm glad you see the light Loco. To clarify, my point was that you aren't dating this girl now. It's all good though. Keep your head clear and your attitude positive.