Long-story short. I met this girl in my UNI class 3 weeks ago; I went to talk to her after class and told her I found her pretty and that we should get together for coffee. I took her number, texted her and we met briefly for an hour. Then I texted her to set-up another get-together, to which she replied that she would let me know if she had too much work to do that day. On the day I wanted to see her she never ended up confirming on anything, no news at all. I didn't recontact her at all and it's been 2 weeks of that. I see her in my classes but we never speak.

Anyway, I've moved on, this post is not about her, it's about the term "ignoring". I have a couple of questions for the experienced dudes out there who have probably seen this a bunch of times and can share some insight.

When a girl ignores you or "flakes", what are appropriate signs to signal whether she just isn't interested or that she's playing hard to get (or in some cases that she's intimidated?). Usually I can tell when a girl just isn't down and I move on quicker than wildfire but for this one some of my friends seem to think I should have rekindled something. One of my friends who does some pick up says that a lot of girls he bangs will flake once and freeze him out until he contacts them again.

Now from the male's perspective, when do you guys find it appropriate to "ignore" a girl instead of moving on? If ever?

So, bullet points!
-Signs she's ignoring you because she's not interested and signs she's ignoring you for other reasons
-Recontacting girls who flake
-Using indifference versus simply forgetting about a chick?

Thanks

Why are you complicated things?

If she's interested... she wouldn't flake and make excuses... period.

Your coffee date was whack. Are you trying to be her friend or her romantic lover? You should've gone out in the evening for a few drinks, then hit up the bowling alley, shoot the shit, be playful, make her laugh, don't be serious, etc. If you guys do manage to make out then go with the flow and then say "Let's go back to my place for some drinks". If you manage to get her back to your place then it should be sealed. If you don't manage to kiss her during the date, do it when at the end. Assuming you had a good time, wasn't serious, she was laughing, etc... You'll just look at her and see that she wants the kiss, then go for it. Gotta get good at reading her.

If I had to guess... your coffee date was boring.

The only way you can get her to go out on you on a date again is by being playful with her in class. Flirt with her, shoot the shit, laugh, then "When are you free this week?" If she gives you a time when she's free, you tell her that you'll pick her up on so and so. If she asks what you are going to do DO NOT answer the question. Women like mysteries. Instead, say something playful back that will keep her mind wondering.

you have to allow the woman to choose you. You sound like you handcuffed her a little. Before pushing for the next date listen to her vibe. Does she want another date? is the question you should ask. Look at the IOIs.

You can always reapproach, but it sounds like you pushed your game to far too soon. But you have to approach from the right angle.

Iff you're going to be indiffernet you have to peacock in front of her. Look fly and ignore her. Say smart shit in class. Be the certain of attention amongst friends.

Hey man! I´ve made this mistake several times when I was in school.

Ya don´t talk to her in class. Why are you not talking to her in class?

- Makes it seem like you just want to fuck
- Makes you look socialy inferrior

She probably wondered why you were ignoring her in class, while you were wondering why she was ignoring you over phone.

Meet number two seemed like a waste of time, you had already done a day meet, it was time to meet evening/nighttime.

- Day activities is a no no for second meet
- Go for drinks
- Invite her to a get together

The bad way to get the meet is to ask for the meet: Are you free on..? I was thinking we could..?
The good way is to invite her: I´m having a party... I want you to come. Ready to rock?

Hope it helps!