We all have issues with inner games and some shortcomings that often lower our self-esteem. I won't name any of those shortcomings right now in the post as they would make you guys insecure.

In fact I am willing to make a bet with any doubters in here I do not make one race thread on this forum anymore. I believe all of you in here whether you like me or hate me should read this.

I grew up in a small town, conservative, religious, not much diversity, etc. Won't get into my life story, I will post that later on if you are interested.

My imaginative shortcoming (because I have not really found it to be a shortcoming at all) was that I thought my ethnic background would stop me from being attractive women. I won't even talk to you guys about what my ethnic background is because I find the talk to be that useless. To fix it I knew I had to break into the heart of the problem and this process took months (actually even more than a year) to permanently fix. At one point I used to obsessively post about my ethnicity on here looking for validation, guys of my ethnicity who have had success, and all sorts of stuff to make me feel better. These fixes only temporarily made me happy.

Think about it like caffeine, you take some caffeine and you feel energized, but then after that you feel like crap again.

The reason I became insecure about my race in the first place is because when I first started browsing forums back in 2010, there were guys of my ethnicity whining about how they could not get women and how mean American women were to them.

For a while I even thought my inner game issue was gone until I had a girl tell me months back "Sorry, you are not my type, I only like White boys". That rejection just brought my demons out.

It would get worse when people on PUA forums would talk about how either

1. Men of my ethnicity were screwed

OR

2. I know a guy who does well with women and HE IS (insert my ethnicity here), if he can do it anyone can

I would ask myself "Wait, why in the world does it have to be a disadvantage anyways!?".

It really wasn't. I know people talk about being ugly and poor as disadvantages but in no circumstances should that be in the same category as being any race as a disadvantage, I was baffled some PUA writers believed this.

So what actions did I take?

- I went out, and I got rejected, and I went out with friends who were different from me (White guys and Latin guys) who were also being rejected.

- Instead of reading forum posts that caused limiting beliefs I read great books (7 habits of highly successful people, 48 laws of power, The Road less traveled, etc.)

- I surrounded my life by positivity rather than letting negativity run it, though I accepted the negativity that exists in this world

- I made a list of things to be grateful for

- I surrounded myself with good and helpful people that will benefit me rather than ones that will drag me down

- I stopped wasting time in general, when you are alone in your room with nothing to do your mind will wonder off to places

Then after my journey, I learned a few important things.

1. Most men are not good with women (in every single race you will find that most men are not worldclass players with outstanding game). Most men out there don't have the type of game that is respected, they won't be ones dating models and beauties, and most will not get to live an active sexual life.

2. Most people out there (especially women) are not completely sure of what they want, their "preferences" will often bend and break. Sometimes when they state their preferences, it is a shit test. I recently hooked up with a brunette who told me she prefers White men and won't really date a minority, interesting right.

3. Most advice given on the matter of race is bullshit. A guy says he has seen men from one race do really bad with women, yet his experience is only limited to one or two given cities at most and there is no way he has even met most people from those races.

4. No matter what you do, you won't be able to change the people's perception of men who look like you. I know that no matter how successful I become with women, the people out there who have a low opinion of your race (men of your race are bad with women, geeky, ugly, etc.) will keep that low opinion regardless.

5. The desired situations and things in life worth having take a lot of effort. I want to date attractive blondes but I have found through my many approaches that these women take more effort than brunettes, gingers, and other women who come easily to me. It isn't about hair color but often these girls are a bit more shallow and have so many options that they can choose from any man. Yet, when I have hooked up with these kinds of girls (2 total), I enjoyed the sex with them than any other kind of women I hooked up with.


So there you have it. In about over a month I will be heading to Holland and updating you guys on my trip.

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I just come on here these days to give advice and read interesting threads. Gone are the days when I came to seek advice and validation.