Recently, I've been frequently told by women I'm gaming that I give off the "player vibe" or told "you're such a player"

I wondered where this was coming from.. Was I too confident? Too cocky? Did I sound insincere?

But I think I have figured it out. Women with high self esteem never question why fun, good looking guys are hitting on them. Women with poor self image, on the other hand, probably ask themselves "this guy can do so much better than me, why is HE talking to ME?"

I think the key here, when this happens, is to try and uncover some of her personality characteristics, and make her feel she has won you over based on them. This is easier said than done.