Every now and then you come across a brilliant idea that has the power to change your life, forever. I believe that I have stumbled across such an idea.

A few years ago, about a month before I moved out of my parents home, the home in which I had lived for the majority of my childhood, and the entirety of my teenage years, I stumbled across Mystery's Venusian Arts Handbook. I had been part of the community and playing the game for awhile, since I was 15, and a lot of previously foreign concepts now seemed naturally. I was arrogant, as is any kid fresh out of high school and ready to go to college is, but I also had a way to make anyone in the room laugh. A perfect Protege of David DeAngelo. I had just finished reading "The Game" and was learning the different stages of seduction, as well as countless routines for each specific stage. I had all the tools to became the ultimate player on campus that fall. But, as with everything I do, I wanted to make sure, account for every contingency, and leave no stone unturned. I finished the Mystery's book in about two days. Although the book was more or less forgettable, To this day I still remember this one powerful image, which I have since seen in nearly every self help/improvement book and seminar:



Basically, the jist of the diagram is that the 3 areas of happiness, Health, Wealth, and Love, are intertwined in such a way that improvement in one area will also improve the other areas by a certain percentage of your improvement in the area you're focusing on. If you let one of these areas atrophy, like a muscle, it will bring down your entire body of happiness.

So how do you get happy? Workout harder, get a higher paying or more fulfilling job, and practice your game. It's super fucking easy. So, if it's so fucking easy, why is it that so few people can honestly say that they are truly happy? Why is it that so many of the people who made New Year's resolutions to get in shape, find Mr. or Ms. Right, or become a millionaire have already failed and given up?

It's because there is a piece of the puzzle not included in that picture. Biologically, all animals not excluding humans, desire to achieve a state of homeostasis, or the state at which a plant or animal has achieved a state of stability. If what you were doing before was allowing you to survive in your environment, your body will actually resist change as if your life depended on it. You will literally have millions of years of evolution working against you, attempting to make you fail to change, even if change is for the better.

What does this have to do with mastering picking up girls?

We all struggle with something, some moreso than others, but we all have our own trials and tribulations. For me, recently, health maintaining my weight has been my biggest problem. My roommate is a personal trainer, and together we started a workout program that I thought would finally be the one to get me that perfect beach body. I would meet my 6-pack, and bitches would throw their panties at me when I just took off my shirt. That wasn't the reason why I wanted to do it though. I can get bitches to throw their panties at me using the tools I have learned over the years from this very community. I wanted to be able to look at myself in the mirror, and actually be proud of the work I put in to achieve the body I wanted. It's not like I'm self conscious about being fat either. I got over that shit years ago. It was more of a challenge. Could I do it? Is it actually possible for me to get a 6-pack?

Long story short, I failed, miserably. I relapsed into my old, energy drink pounding, video-game playing ways when school got too stressful, and actually gained weight at the end of it all. Then, I visited my father for the first time in about a year.

My father used to be big time into bodybuilding, and lifted with guys such as Lou Ferrigno and Ken Waller, as well as Team USA weightlifters at the time (late 60's). He broke his back lifting, and although he made a full recovery, he was never able to lift with the intensity he once could. So he turned to Tai-Chi, started a very successful school, and the rest is history.

When I first saw my dad, barely able to walk and using a cane because his hips had gotten so bad, something suddenly hit me. I'm 22 years old, I'm in the prime of my life, and I am wasting it being fat and lazy. What would this man give to be my age again, and be able to do the things he once could when he was my age?

I finally found it. I had found my "Why," the hidden piece of the puzzle that we all need but very few of us have. The essential piece for success. The piece that allows you to persevere when the entire world and your entire ancestry wants you to fail.

Most people fail because they do not have a "Why." If they do happen to have a why, it's probably not strong enough. You need a very strong "Why" otherwise at the first sign of resistance, and mark my words it will come, you will cower into the corner, tucked into fetal position, and cry until mommy brings you back home.

Why do I do it? I only have one chance at this wonderful gift called life. I have the entire world as my playground. When I'm 70 years old and walking on a cane, I will reminisce about this time in my life and think: "Shit, I truly lived the life." not "I wish I did." Then I will look forward and keep kicking ass, because I will have laid the foundations for happiness that will allow me to be happy until the day I die.

So, tell me, what is your why?