A huge mistake guys make when trying to become attractive is that they try to act through a certain self-image that fits into what in their mind equates as “attractive” in a girl’s eyes.

This means that a guy who has been told that women like “nice guys” would force himself to fit into the category of nice-guy in order to manage the impression on her that he is indeed a nice guy (again this is trying to manipulate the girl by hiding your true personality and filtering it to get good reactions).

Same goes for guys acting like douchebags when they don’t truly feel like it, it’s pathetic and these guys never get results.
This mistake is THE key in understanding social-dynamics and learning how to become an attractive person.

If you remember an article I wrote previously about the topic of “value” (LINK) you probably remember how I’ve said the only thing that matters to people is what has THE MOST VALUE at that moment in time!

99% of guys think that acting through a certain self-image conveys value to the girl and shows her you are a cool dude, so these guys will basically confine their behavior and stifle themselves in order to appear as-though they are someone else who’s supposedly more attractive than what they currently have to offer.

For example many guys have the limiting belief that being in a bad mood means they are not good enough for a girl, heck, most guys think that EVEN THEIR BEST-SELF IS NOT GOOD ENOUGH TO GET THE GIRL!
What these guys failed to realize is this:
AUTHENTICITY AND REALNESS HAVE MORE VALUE THAN A GOOD MOOD
Actually BEING Yourself is much more valuable in a girl’s eyes than being “cool” or “James-Bondi’sh”!
Why?
Because NOBODY DOES THAT!

Think for a moment how many people you actually know, who, when they are sad, would actually act fully congruently with being sad instead of faking bullshit fucking happiness?

How many people do you know who you can trust to truly always tell you what they think without having an agenda?
IT’S THAT FUCKING RARE.

That’s why, when a girl meets a guy who, regardless of his mood, will act 100% as himself and not have an agenda, that women would cling to that guy like moth’s to the fire.

I have had so many times where I felt depressed or sad and went up to girls acting exactly as I feel (slouching, not maintaining eye-contact, talking quietly) and had them invite me over and give me a ton of attention, only for me to later feel happy and then end-up with the same girl I’ve talked to when I felt bad earlier!

That’s because people fucking LOVE authenticity, it’s so rare nowadays it’s insane, everyone has an agenda, nobody can act real and when people see that they don’t want to let go of it since it has so much value!

Another amazing perk to being completely authentic and not needing an outcome is that it grants you relaxation, this is the only way to truly enjoy socializing, trust me if you ever want to get girls you must learn to relax when you are with her or else she will immediately sense you are nervous because you think you are not worthy of her, this is an extreme turn-off for all women, don’t be that guy (in other words don’t be like everyone)
OK so how DO I stay authentic?

You must do it for yourself!

Make the decision to fully be yourself without wanting any outcome from people, without holding to any self-image you might have in your head, it’s hard at first but trust me, once you master this your life will change so profoundly I can’t even begin to describe..!

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I agree and this is why INNER GAME is so important. Never rationalize or negotiate your life based on what women want. Do whatever the fuck you want 24/7.

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Women are smarter than you think... but not as smart as THEY think

Exactly, because honestly there's nothing more you CAN do besides fully being yourself

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Before "being yourself" you need to develop yourself into a better men, into an alpha men.

AFC's just can't be themselves, they need to build themselves into a real men. Then they can be themselves, other way around you will be/have women, but not as much as you would have if you developed yourself first.

Thats something I wanted to add . Without the inner game, you are screwed