Looking for some fresh advice on my sitch with HB who happens to be my realtor. Current dynamic is this:

- Have met up to look at places 4 times or so
- Have had a nice flirtatous time of it, she has shown plenty of IOI at times
- Only some kino
- Last time we were out, she made a passing comment about "wanting what we can't have" (read between lines: ME)
- Last time, she also seemed to be sending some IOD saying "Oh it's 'just' redzone"; I was non-reactive
- Towards end of interaction, she was dropping hints that I should/could call her outside of work (but as a LJBF?)
- My response was "well, I think you should be buying me a beer for all the trouble you've been causing me!" (half-joking - clearly a big IOI on my part, however - shift in mind-set interpreted by her, I could imagine)

As might be expected, she's backed way off now (were supposed to get together on the weekend, did not happen; perhaps getting together Weds, says she needs to see, etc.). Possible interpretations:

- Congruency Test - trying to freeze ME out, looking for my "real intentions"
- Honest disinterest (perhaps I left it "too late", etc.)

My inclination at this point is to be a bit unpredictable and in a relaxed, NON-WUSSY way, try to move two steps forward (the one step back part is something I've yet to flush out). I could imagine needing to forcefully set the boundaries that *I* want: we can be more than 'just redzone' and 'just HRB' or just have a working relationship. (But that for example LJBF won't fly.)

Thoughts on that? I.e., face this head-on a bit, or just continue to pretend things are fine the way they are? I've got to believe she's getting pissed that I've not MOVED on her. I'm pissed that I've not moved more aggressively, too. Maybe it's too late - but if so, I've got really nothing left to lose, right? (Other than look foolish - but perhaps that's a good experience, on how to handle that in an alpha kind of way.)

I'm looking at this as a learning experience and would like to find a way to navigate it "well". I am truly not overly concerned about outcome (I can afford to lose this one) but of course would be happiest with some success.