Just curious to ask you guys,have you ever experienced a syndrome called Deep Frustration..It is what Neil Strauss described in his masterpiece as a combination of desire and paralysis that is deadly..I have made a commitment to myself to get over that syndrome and start approaching girls since last November and still i havent made it but once and even that time it wasnt that satisfactory..It is just that i make plans everyday to go and talk to this or that group in the college but when it comes time to action i just chicken out and i get the worst feeling ever the rest of the day..I have started to lose faith in everything after i have failed myself several times..What is worse is that i have good looks(i get plenty of attention everyday)and i know deep down that i can lead an interesting conversation if i want to(if only i would overcome some sticky points like awkward silences). So is this normal to stay all that time without doing an action even though i have commited myself to it?Has anyone got that painful feeling before and just went through it and had success afterwards?So please share with me and if u can,raise my esteem so that grow some fucking balls and start making things happen for myself...

You have nothing to gain by listening to other peoples horror stories about the fear of approach. Nothing anyone tells you here is going to make you instantaneously get over your fear. Everyone strikes out from time to time its how we pick ourselves up and keep going is what matters
Stop dwelling on bad past experiences.
Seems to me you don't want a women bad enough....

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seriously... remember that you have absolutely NOTHING to lose... lets look at the possibilities:

-You DON'T approach the girl:
---Result- you don't get the girl

-You DO approach the girl:
---Result 1- You don't get the girl
---Result 2- You don't get the girl, but you have a new social circle to work with
---Result 3- You get the girl

Just remember that you don't care what anyone else thinks of you because you KNOW that you're fine the way you are... Be CONFIDENT... Be ALPHA

(and yes... i do know how you feel... i used to be the same way, but now i'm recovering from that phase)

Sounds like you need to pick up pace slowly, try just asking random strangers normal questions like, Hello, could you tell me the time. Or Do, you know where XXXXXXX is? This way you get used to talking to new people slowly.

You will overload your system too much if you don't take it nice and steady. Just like with jumping out of perfectly good airplanes, you have to start with jumping off of your chair 5 times a day

Set yourself a goal each day and if you don't achieve it, don't reward yourself with anything out of the ordinary. No eating junk food, no taking the easy road, do everything the way that takes the most effort and is hardest. It forces you to want to fulfill your goals, so that you'll be allowed to reward yourself with maybe ordering a pizza instead of having to cook dinner, or a chocolate bar for dessert.

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~ Rye

Well,thanks for the good advice so far,to Thugnificient,I do want women badly and it has even become my obsession that i day and night dream about being a magnifcent sarger,but as u know desire is not enough and i should try to transform the overwhelming 'willing' energy inside me to real action.As for delta's post the possibilties u stated bout getting the girl or not is awesome and i will try to stick that in my mind next time but i dont get the part of creating social circle..Did I miss something here.For Rye,I am not really into the idea of self punishment unless it is real harsh so i will try to connect my success with sarging to masturbation(to jerk off if i can manage to pick up one girl)..And for 3 hands i tried that but not helped much..

i naturally evolved out of this in junior high. during elementary school i was terrified of girls and even through junior high. then i started moving a lot because my dad kept getting new jobs. this forced me to be social or die. i started out just talking to different guys because that is what i was most comfortable with.

i hung out with nerds because i could easily talk to them and they would talk back and they were cool. then i moved and i didnt know anyone again.

i was this big white guy in LA but i found that playing basketball during recess would get me into social circles. the only people who would play were a bunch of these tiny mexican guys that played basketball every day. i was a big white guy so it was really awkward looking and i was the butt of a lot of jokes but we were all cool with each other and they were awesome. from there i expanded outward to people i knew in classes just in time to move again.

when i got to my new school and house, i was in late high school and i joined a sports team and the local church youth group. from there i just branched out. during all the moves i knew i got comfortable with guys but talking to girls was like talking to aliens.

i figured in my mind that if i could talk to girls, i would have to imitate girls. thats what i did. i watch girls and how the responded and reacted within social groups and circles. i was able to mimic girls to be able to talk to them well. this only got me to friends zone so many times though. all i had to do now that i am in college is find the pua community and set myself straight. i used my ability to understand girls emotions and language, my alpha mentality from playing sports, and new knowledge in being c+f and how to work the game and now i am unstoppable when it comes to talking to women.

My Point:

start slow and with what you have. build from there. get to know how to talk to guys better if that makes you comfortable. talk to every girl you see as a friend and befriend them. that will get you no where in relationships but at least you will understand them a bit more and will not be afraid of them. from there all you have to do is add your pua abilities.

its all about natural progression. let yourself evolve and dont be afraid to change or slowly mutate. an ant doesnt become a whale in a day, if ya know what i mean.

best of luck to you and be prepared to spend some time (possibly months to years) on this