| You might sometimes find yourself envying women. For them, dating involves: a) Finding a guy they like, and b) Expecting that guy to pay for dinner, flowers, romantic gifts, and whatever else it takes to ”persuade” them into a relationship.
Wouldn't it be nice if, just once, this could happen to us? Well, there is a way. Find yourself a sugar mama and enjoy the good life. You won't be a gigolo; this is more than just a money-for-sex thing. It's a relationship of convenience, with each of you giving something that the other greatly desires.
But you'll have to earn it first. Your sugar mama will have to be attractive in her own right, with the added bonus of wealth. This is going to attract rivals, so you'll have to pull out all the stops to distance yourself from all the gold-digging boy toys out there.
Where to find a sugar mama
Once you've decided a sugar mama is the prey you're after, where do you do the hunting? The most obvious target-rich environments are places that attract wealth.
Estate sales, auction houses, charity benefits, yacht clubs, top-end jewelry stores, cultural events, and quality casinos are good places to start. Every city has certain bars and restaurants that are favored by the wealthy. It might dent your wallet a little, but frequenting these places will increase your chances of meeting a potential sugar mama.
What to do to attract her
What the sugar mama mainly finds attractive is your youth. But you'll have to do more than adopt the fresh-faced look and naïve mindset of an 18 year old.
Physically, you'll have to look good. Dress well, take care of yourself, and radiate youth and energy. Don’t make the mistake of believing that women's standards slip as they get older; on the contrary, they know what they really want more than ever.
More importantly, though, you need to convey the attitude of youth. Display a “go anywhere, do anything” outlook, a lust for life and an infectious enthusiasm that will sweep her along. Your role isn't to highlight how old she is now, but to make her feel young again just by being around you.
What to talk about
The one subject you definitely shouldn’t bring up is her wealth and your aspirations of benefiting from it. Just like their male counterparts, sugar mamas are often plagued by young gold diggers who only want cold, hard cash.
Instead, use conversation to demonstrate that you possess the qualities she is looking for. Highlight your virility and lust after her. She's probably used to the more restrained approaches of older men and will likely find your youthful enthusiasm much more flattering.
Be careful not to let the age gap intimidate her; constantly showing her that you live on the cutting edge might push her away. Make sure she doesn't feel out of touch by picking conversation topics she can relate to. If you're at an art gallery, talk about the art and use that to set up a date.
The sugar mama may talk about her wealth to flirt with you. Don't dismiss it, but don’t dwell on it. The aim, as with all dating endeavors, is to separate yourself from the pack. If she brings the conversation around to money, acknowledge it, but change the subject. Suggest coyly that she could use some of it to buy you a drink, then move on to something else that will pique her interest. This will establish that you are interested in benefiting from her wealth, but that you have more to offer than the others.
How to seduce her
As opposed to most relationships, in this type of situation, the woman is the one expected to do most of the pursuing. As a rich woman, she's probably used to going after what she wants and getting it. And if you're lucky, she doesn't care what it costs.
Once you've caught her eye and established that you're interested in her, let her do the chasing. Unless you're on the run from the cops, this is probably the only chance you'll get to feel “pursued.”
Enjoy it. Remember that she wants something from you just as much as you want something from her. Let her take you out for dinner, pick up nice little gifts for you and basically do everything that you normally have to do.
Once you think you've been pursued enough, move in for the kill. To her, you represent all the things men her own age have lost. Use the passion and spontaneity she wants so much to your advantage. Kiss her passionately, give her sensual massages and spend a lot of time pleasuring her in order to make her feel special.
How to maintain the relationship
Now that you've bagged a sugar mama, you have to hang on to her. You need to display the youth she finds so attractive while maintaining a certain level of maturity so you fit into her life. This type of relationship differs from most others in one key way: It's unlikely a sugar mama will want you to talk about settling down.
Your main task is to make her feel young again -- not necessarily by taking her to all-night raves, but by injecting fun back into her life. Youth is a time of endless possibilities and she wants to feel that all over again. Suggest exciting events like attending the opening of a new bar or whisk her away for a romantic weekend in the country -- all on her tab, of course.
Just don't act too young. Taking her to a college party and drinking until you vomit won’t impress her; in fact, it will send her looking for someone more mature. She might like a “go anywhere, do anything” attitude, but she has certain standards.
Dangers to avoid
As a rich older woman, a sugar mama is used to owning things. Just make sure she doesn’t come to believe that she is buying you or that she owns you; this is an equal trade that runs deeper than cash and sex.
Although your youth is the main reason for her attraction, make sure she doesn't grow to resent it. Never make her feel old or out of touch; this goes against what she's seeking from you. Constantly prattling on about how cool you are is the equivalent of her casually writing you a check every time you go to bed.
it pays in more than one way
There's more to these relationships than living the easy life. Women hit their sexual peak later than men, so you’ll find yourself in bed with a woman who has the winning combination of enthusiasm and experience. Even if you feel you are being paid for sex, it could be some of the best sex you’ve ever had.
One of the major benefits of this relationship is that she'll never want you to grow up. She could get all the “grown-up” things -- responsibility, commitment and security -- from a man her own age.
So go find yourself a sugar mama. She's more than just a meal ticket.
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