I was reading about making a woman qualify herself to you. Assuming this person exists, I'm going to list traits that my ideal woman has. I suppose in my current state of mind, my standards have been lowered a great deal. I remember my friends used to tell me to lower my standards. Logically thinking, lowering my standards would create more women for me to select from. But we've learned already that we can't choose who we're attracted to. So the actual result would be me pursuing a woman in whom I notice far too many flaws. In other words, I'd be chasing women to validate myself through the quantity of women I may have a chance with, rather than the quality of women.

I'm going to start listing things, but I'm gonna leave out the obvious ones. Obviously I don't want a fat girl or a chick with bad acne. Obviously I don't want a chick with a mustache, adam's apple, and webbed feet either.


Physical and/or Visible Traits:
Long soft hair
no more than an inch taller than me on bare feet (i'm 5'10")
breasts large enough to fill my hand
a round butt, not necessarily a large one though
groomed below the belt
needs to wear nearly ZERO makeup

Personality Traits:
Non-Religious, but "spiritual" is okay
drinks, but doesn't smoke
must come near my own level of intelligence
understands that MTV now is different from MTV then
*meh, fuck this personality part, there are WAY too many aspects to list.

But there you have it, the beginnings of my ideal woman. Even within those guidelines, there's a LOT of room for variety.

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-Murdoc

That's a great start man. And, what she lacks in one area, she could make up for in another area, which leads to more variety and flexibility.

I just want a girl who is as smart as me, and spends as much time working out as i do

i'm not gonna hold my breath for one though

Actually, hunter, you should. Till you're blue in the face too, actually, lol.

Seriously man, you should raise your expectations. Girls love that bro.

find a girl you are comfy with.

I get numbers and delete them, or don't even bother to close a lot of girls, just because they don't meet my standards and I WON'T compromise. Sure you can go out and find hot stupid girls to bang if that's what you're into, but personally I've always put stock in "quality over quantity".

In the end, if you want a REAL QUALITY girl, she's gonna value the fact that you don't just use your abilities to get with as many girls as possible, but that you go for the girls you like. If you are able to get tons of girls that you really like, she'll respect that too.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

I've found it a good exercise for me recently to outright REJECT a couple of girls. In one case we had a date, it seemed to go ok, she gave enough IOI to imply I should call her back - but I just didn't get the vibe she was compatible enough - so I've chosen to say "pass". Very empowering.

Traits I'm looking for (roughly in order of importance):

Phyiscally Attractive
Sexually Unrepressed
Extremely Intelligent / Witty
Self-sufficient
An Optimist
Challenging (yes, I'll admit it, it makes life interesting)