Hey Guys,

Now I'm sure we've all discussed how to pick up a women. But how to keep her satisfied is another story. I think on these forums there is a lot of great discussion on how to meet women, but its a whole new ball game when its a longterm relationship, or not even that but once you want to keep them interested.

Basically what I'm asking is how is it that you go about a taking control of a relationship, and no matter what always having the women/girl be attracted to you, and never get bored.

Here are a few things I can think of:

a) Appearing to be busy quite often
b) Not appearing needy that you can do without her
c) In terms of sex, I find that if you dont ask for it and you dont seem needy about it, it triggers a switch in a women that makes her want you 10x more.

Now thats just a few points I have. My main question is in a relationship, how do you keep a women interested, attracted, and keep her from getting bored.

I think this will spark some great discussion.

Cheers guys, (and zip lol).

One thing I've often done that has amazing results in rewarding for good behavior. For example, if the girl hasn't complained and such, surprise her with a sentimental gift. The random gifts classically conditions her to act the way you prefer (All women like those thoughtful but cheap gifts). If you pull off the alpha coupled with this reward, she often views you as one of those amazing one of a kind guys. And these rewards can also affect other girls views of you also, in case you need safety net(s).

It also helps to keep high value (keeping very hot girl friends) because they provide great advice and keeps your value up. Some guys get into a relationship and their value gets shot.

That's always been very beneficial to me. Compassion without needy-ness.

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Great advice sinner. I totally agree, you have to keep up high value thats for sure. Also displaying non-neediness, and that you do have options is definately attractive to her.

I'm talking more about everyday things though that you can do or things that will really keep her interested and attractive, the past I don't think that gifts are great. Now I can try using then in the context you describe, such as if she does something good to reward her with a sentimental gift. Thats interesting.

I think another one can be, showing disinterest at times and making her wait eg. if she calls you dont answer and wait an hour and act busy.

As far as the sex, sure, don't act needy about it or anything like that, but also, take charge and you bring out her inner animal. When you do that, and do it well, she will crave more of you, more often. That alone helps to keep them sticking around. Then, of course, the other things you guys have mentioned are also important.

It also depends on whether you just mean a long term g/f, or a wife. The sex issue is the same with either case, but some of the other stuff changes.

Well im talkin more in terms of long term gf, but no exclusive to that. Like it can be like your seeing 3 girls at a time, but juggling them. But if you want them to be sticking around long term. More or less yes, I was gearing it towards a g/f not really a wife lol. At least not for a another 10 years

Yeah I found myself in a situation with a girl that I've been with for three months. I find everything gets deeper and deeper emotionally. I think it is because we don't spend all our time with each other. She knows I meet other girls and she is looking for the same things. I prefer the relationship with out a contract type of thing. I think thats more natural and in the end it works best because you find a connection equally based on friendship and the physical stuff. Occasionally women will fight with you because women like to start drama, but you just have learn how to stand your ground. Respect has to be always present for her to remain close to you. You lose her respect then you're out on your ass.

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Good point wild i totally agree bro.

I guess no ones really an expert in this field haha.

I am. I keep myself entertained and satisfied all day long.

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lmao any tips then zip ?

lol no1 is confident in this area i take it.

porn and chocolate.

no, as far as keeping relationships going... this is what I live by and it works for me. I keep a mix of comfortable situations (watching a football game together, vedging, etc.) and doing new and outrageous things. Variety keeps things exciting and relaxing keeps comfort. The variety theory also helps in the bedroom.

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Thanks zip yeah i totally agree on mixes things up i think that is key. To always keep her guessing to.

About the in bed part thats my specialty

LMAO @ porn and chocolate. Hmmm, I've got a chocolate "inventory" at my home.

And yes, variety sexually is VITAL.

I'm confident in this area, but I probably couldn't give you the kind of advice you're looking for. I have experience with being married. Been there 3 times, lol. And, I have experience with also having a g/f while married, which was KNOWN by both girls. But, you're not looking for "marital advice".
You take control simply by maintaining the control that you started with. You keep that frame. You discuss things with her and get her input and VALUE her input, and even let her make decisions and all that too, but if there's ever an important issue, your decision is final. Just make sure you make the sensible decision.

You always have them attracted by continuing to do what attracts women in the first place. Flirt, push/pull, engage their emotions, reward them, let them into your life, protect them, and from there it gets much deeper, depending on where you want the relationship to go.