I usually don't ask for flat-out advice like this, but hey, isn't that what forums of experts are for.

so i've been gaming an HB 9 for a while. I want to invite her over this weekend. I am not going to see her until after this weekend. I found her on facebook, but i don't want to message her coming off as "stalking" or something.

I know that i shouldn't friend her. I'll message her instead and get her to freind me.

how should i approach this and invite her without coming off try-hard. should i just make contact first, then invite later?

thanks guys

And you don't have her phone #?
Because stalking is creepy, that's why I'm doing it

Go find a new girl untill you see this one in person and time bridge. By inviting her to your pad ... that's just saying "hi hb, I want to have sex with you this weekend, is my place good for you?" And the fact you're going to do it over facebook just makes you an even bigger tool.

Yep.

Don't do the normal thing, because asking her to come over is still like asking her for a date. Instead, ask yourself if you are doing anything interesting. I don't know, are you going on an adventure somewhere, or doing something fun and interesting. If so, tell her what your doing, and tell her you would like the company. Invite her along to do something with you. Remember bro, don't make pick-up a full time thing. Always have something better to do.

Also if you are on facebook, don't ask her this too quickly. Have you already established rapport with this girl? Do you have any sort of connection? Are you still in school? If so, ask her to meet you at a starbucks... because you hate studying alone. I understand that you want her this weekend, but if I remember this quote correctly "patience is virtue". Slow and steady wins the race my friend.

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thanks guys.

i tend to jump the gun sometimes. i'll wait until i see her again. and i'll have something better that she can tag along with