Hi, this is Love Bomb.

I need some advice for my latest surprise for a girl that live near my school. I attend a college that is in the same city as her (she does not go to the same school), but right now we have a break from school for 2 weeks. I still talk to her once awhile (gotta act busy).

I made up a story saying I will not be back next quarter due to financial issue to continue school right now, instead I will be moving up to NYC to explore life before entering the real world.

Now, that I have her thinking I am far to reach. Even though she wants to visit me in NYC "I will visit your ass in NYC when I get my break from school". How can I set up something like "I have a gift for you at so and so place, come at this time." the gift is actually me and surprise her when I return back to school in few more weeks?

Your advice is greatly appreciated.

You said exactly what you would say if you want to surprise her that way. Just make sure that you don't get all afc and bring her a gift, or make her think you are gonna be all sappy and that you are bringing her a gift. Honestly I wouldn't try to make her think you're gonna be bringing her anything at all and telling her to meet you somewhere takes away the whole suprise or you being there, so the whole thing is probably a bad idea. Head back to the drawing board and think of some other way to meet up with her, like meeting you at a mall, or for coffee or something that doesn't make her think she has your balls in her purse.

_________________
"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

The gift is me. I am not buying her anything. My point was to make it a surprise moment that I am in town instead of being in NYC. Maybe this is a bad idea to test a girl...

Yeah, but by telling her you have a gift for her, she's gonna assume that you're in town already. I mean, I guess it would work fine, because she'll still be happy to see you and stuff, but don't expect her to reel from the surprise and not be expecting to find you there. You just don't want her to think that you're giving her some gift, because then she'll think you're afc and be turned off.

_________________
"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

Do you have any mutual friends??? Just organize the surprise through one of them. Don't mention anything yourself... get the friend to tell her that he/she has a surprise for her. Pretend you're still in new york... then she goes to hang out with so and so, and you're there, and she is like OH MY GODDDDDDDD

you know??

Yeah, both of these guys have a great point. By telling her that you have a gift or a surprise or anything like that, it COULD work, but you WILL be leading her to believe something that MAY dissapoint her. But, if you could arrange something through someone else and just "be there", if she really likes you, she will be so thrilled you won't believe it.

So, that's the question . . . who do you know that's willing to work with you on this?

Good idea. Thanks.

I could set up a fake body and have her call me to let the person know that she's in the venue looking for the person, for her gift. Then I come out and say "I am the gift you are looking for". So, no one else is in this skit but myself and the girl.

Surprise sex! (WARNING: DO NOT ATTEMPT THIS ON A WOMAN YOU HAVE NOT YET SEDUCED.)

Seriously though, surprises are rewards for something nice she did for you. This is not to be confused with being unpredictable and fun when you're with her initially.

Has she done anything to warrant a surprise? If not, you are in effect supplicating to her because you want to impress her and going through the tremendous trouble of creating the perfect scenario for the surprise, when in fact she has not done anything to earn that much effort on your part.

_________________
afc-challenge-to-the-masters-social-anx ... 10108.html

Keep in mind what Roads is talking about. I question how serious
you two are with one another.


Just an idea, though:

She and accomplice go to coffee shop. You are waiting out of eye
sight. The accomplice leaves to "get something out of the car" and
never comes back. You approach from a blind spot, go sit down and
just start talking as if everything is normal. "Wow, traffic was rough
today. Would you please pass me a creamer?"

I know this doesn't have the set-up of "I'm going to give you a gift.
Here it is", but I'm sure that once she finds out her friend was in on
it, paired with you showing up to see her, she'll be happy enough. :-)