I'm sure most of you already know these, but I'm sure some of you don't, so I thought it would be good to bring them out in the open.

1. Leader of men
2. Preselected by women
3. Willing to emote
4. Protector of loved ones

The faster you switch these attraction switches in a woman, the faster things will escalate with her toward you. You walk in leading a group of guys, as in wings, boom, there's one. You have a woman or women with you also, boom there's two. If not, you stop and open a set immediately and they don't reject you, boom there's two. You show that you're willing to show emotion (willing to emote) and not just stand there like a bump on a log, boom there's three. Obviously the protector of loved ones will be a bit harder to show, but the opportunity for that one occasionally arises too.

From there, you have the other stuff, like kino escalation to amp up the attraction that's already been created.

I think you get the idea.

From one of my favorite books I've read since learning PUA, Secrets of Female Sexuality by David Shade:


There Are Four Things Women Must Have

First, she needs to feel appreciated for the unique individual that
she is. She needs to feel special, unlike any other woman, and she
needs to know that her man supports her in her endeavors.

Second, she needs to feel that deep, intimate emotional
connection. She needs to have that emotional intimacy with her man.
It's a connection she shares only with him.

Third, she needs to feel like a woman. She needs to feel
beautiful, sexy, and feminine. She needs to enjoy all those things
that come with being a woman.

Finally, she needs hot, passionate sex. She needs to be seduced,
enticed, teased, and satisfied, over and over again. She needs to
experience new things, in new ways, including fantasies and roles. It
makes her feel desired, affirmed, and alive.



Add these onto the 4 main attraction switches and you've got a lit stick of dynamite in your hand and you can blow out any other guys in the room.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

Interesting. I thought I had made a bad move when I ran into a girl while I was on the phone wishing my grandfather happy birthday, and let her know that's what I was doing. (in a humorous way). She gave me one of those girly "ohh's" and I thought it meant she was looking down on me and I froze her out the next day. But maybe I didn't screw up after all.

Hmmm...

One thing I've always done instinctively was to remind the girl that she's female and I'm male whenever the opportunity presents itself. Like if she offers hand sanitizer I usually say "I'm a guy, sweetheart. I use soap and water." I also always felt like telling a girl that my home state (New Jersey) is misunderstood and is actually "beautiful" was a good move. You guys seem to hit the nail on the head as to why. It shows that a guy can have emotion towards something...I also thought she would instinctively know that it meant that the guy saying so did think of certain things as beautiful and thus would make her want him to say the same about her.

That's enough rambling out of me. Thanks!

The only thing that is difficult in weaving these into any interaction. does it matter which one i start with? like starting with showing emotion would i come off as a wimp?

That depends. Are you talking about whining as you go into the set? lol. Or throwing a temper tantrum or something? I'm not sure how you would authentically show emotion going into the set. Unless something dramatic happened in the vicinity.

The order isn't strict, but to be honest, the easiest switches to flip are the first two. Leading men. All you have to do is either walk in with some guys, with you being their leader, or talk to some guys in the venue, and show that you are taking the role as their leader. Preselected by women. Either walk in with a woman, could be a friend, doesn't matter, or start talking to at least one woman in the club, and make her laugh a little. That would show some preselection there.

Other girls in the vicinity will notice these triggers, so when you move to them, those switches are already flipped. Then, more girls in the vicinity will notice, and so on.

It's not hard to work these into your social interactions, because these ARE your social interactions.

thx ya i read that it may just be easier to show some of these in what you say rather than walking up with a group of guys and girls protecting them with a sword. lol i usually just think well it may be a little too soon to show this girl that im emotional so that to me, comes later.

Yeah, usually emoting comes after at least a few minutes, but you CAN work it in earlier. If you were to come up to a set and start talking about something they are wearing in a positive light, then that would be emoting and then you just follow it up with something negative to turn it into a neg and you're good. For instance, "God, I LOVE your hat, wicked stylish! Too bad it TOTALLY clashes with the rest of your outfit! " Notice the words in caps are showing that you are enthusiastic and have emotions, and the smirk or wink at the end shows you're just playing with them. Typically they'll pretend to be offended and you can play fight a bit before leading into something else.

You can also take another route and be strong and dominant and alpha and show all the other characteristics, while acting like nothing phases you, like you're in charge of the world and you know it. You're dominant and nothing could bother you, but still friendly of course. After you've done this long enough for them to see that its not just an act you put on, you can show emotion by talking about things that you are passionate about, whether its music, or movies, or anything that won't make her lose interest. By showing your interest in those things, you've emoted and shown her that underneath your tough exterior, you've got a warm heart and she'll want to bring it out if she likes what she sees.

Then you can do just about anything in between.

Emoting doesn't have to be going, "Oh my mother is sick, so I need to fly home to take care of her, she's such a wonderful lady, I love her so much. " Sure, if done right you can use that, but you can also just express your love for art, or a certain genre of music that you share a common interest in. The real key to making a good connection when you're emoting, is to find something that she has an interest in as well, or at least values other people's interest in it. If you love heavy-metal and she listens to classical, then you're not winning any points. If she is the kind of person that values family above all else, then the line up above will make her melt.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

Another component that needs to be added to this, since I'm seeing a lot of guys don't know about this either, is to be willing to take risks. Be willing to blow out the set. Be willing to lose the girl. Be willing to put yourself out there in the first place. If you're not willing to take some risks, you won't get very far.

This is awsome stuff guys.

2. Preselected by women
3. Willing to emote
4. Protector of loved ones

Im 21 and my sister is 18...Shes a pivot and doesnt even know it...