| Hi guys, im still a developing PUA, and as such one of my larger goals is to become the alpha male of my own social circle. I beleive that your own social circle has got to be the hardest group to do this in because they already have preconceived notions and experience with you. Also if you are not the leader of your group how can you lead other peoples groups? If your out with your friends and they dont treat you alpha, you most likely will not be accepted as alpha in another group once they see you with your friends.
So i made some very cool observations last night as i went out with a few buddies. This is probably more along the lines of a FR, but since no real gamming was done i put it here.
As a general overveiw i have changed ALOT in the last month or so since i started training and studying to become a PUA. These changes have taken place both physically and mentally. They have been so drastic that friends and family have not been able to ignore these changes. During the last month i have been acting much more alpha with my circle of friends and i think im on the verge of breaking into full blown Alpha status with them.
So i decided the first step to leading the group would be deciding when and where to go. This was an easy choice because my whole group of friends sually just wing it last min and go wherever and we have a generally lame time.
I called a few people, told them i was planning an outting for saturday night (called them friday i think). Told them i planned on going down town, just a few of us (makeing it seem exclusive), and that we would go to a bar called Blue martini at around 930-10. At first my friends all said they wanted to go.
However typical to my friends normal behavior they all started to bail out.
-Rob seeing a flyers game
-Eric + Brooke not going out because he is sick
-Craig wants to go out but no one else is comming
So speaking with Craig i finally offer up the idea of seeing Beowulf in IMAX. He said sure, then the rest fell in line. Most notably my friend Eric has an issue with saying no. usually he will say yes then not answer his phone or flake out last second. I noticed immediatly his behavior changed when i was dealing with him. He said he and his wife were thinking about another movie, i said cool np bye and hung up. Five mins later he says they are in and comming (apparently not sick anymore).
In the car on the way there (including Rob driving, Craig in the back seat, and me up front), that i was very talkative and humorous (without trying). I held the frame in the car the whole 45 min ride there, which in the past would have been very rare, i probably woulda sat in almost full silence.
We walk into the theatre and i notice we are doing like a flying V and im at the front tip...just for shits and giggles id make a fake turn to the left or right and they would too!
In any case while we are grabbing our tickets my buddy Eric and his wife aproach and greet us. Just to fill you in on his wife, she is very attractive, and very snobbish. Generally she doesnt acknoledge anyone except a few select people in our circle of friends. You can say hi to her and she will ignore you, not even look in your direction.
I give my friend Eric a firm handshake with some good alpha EC. He mentions my new rings (3 of them, 2 on my right hand thumb and pointer, left hand on my pinky i have 1). I respond instantly with a C & F line, then look his wife in the eyes and give a strongly stated "Hi". She smiles at me, drops EC and responds back with a hello.
From this point on i held the frame of conversation with these 4 people im friends with the whole wait in line.
We walk in and the only seats available are the first row, and accross the room half the second row. Note there is a railing in front of the first row that limits your veiw. I conclude the obvious choice is cut accross the first row and sit in the second.
I walk over goto the second row and take my seat and notice ALL of my friends sitting in the first row. Its cool i make EC and laff at them and then just sit back and relax. About 10 seconds later they all get up and sit down next to me, i even welcome them to the much cooler section i sit in.
After the movie we are walking out and seperate from my friend eric and his wife, i say good night to them strong and alpha and his wife responds again. (i know it may not seem speacial, but i have known this women maybe a few years and this is the most she has spoken around me since i meet her).
We get to the car and Craig goes, "Shotgun!". I make EC, laff at him...ignore his complaints and sit in the front seat. Even Rob the one driving tells him to stop complaining that i get the front seat. We neg him a bit about it then i hold the frame the whole ride home.
So all in all not an amazing night as far as PU goes, however i noticed drastic changes in my social circles dynamics that point out to me i took an alpha role. Hopefully in becomming the leader of the men in my group the women will follow.
My advice to anyone who is not the alpha of thier group is to gradually change their alpha image. Physically first, dont go over the top when changing your appearence. Start with shaving, clean cut, clothes ironed or a simple change in style. Then start peacocking more and going further with it. You will receive less AMOG comments from the men this way, just counter them C & F and confident and you'll be gold.
With your socail interaction start to organize things, be proactive, and dont get down if your plans fall through. Be talkative and the center of positive attention, and soon you will see the people in your social circle following your lead.
This process that i thought would take months or maybe even more then a year with my closest friends is taking less then 2 months. It is amazing and becomming this groups alpha male will help elavate your inner game and confidence.
Hope you enjoy this post, sorry for the length but i tend to deeply analyze things.
-Ka-
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( as what you're doing will influence them aswell)