I just posted this to
The Zen of Meeting Women blog and thought people here might find it helpful. Any comments or questions are welcome.
Quote:
Sarge – 1. verb: to pick up women, or to go out to try and meet women. 2. noun: a woman who has been picked up. Origin: Aardvark.
Everyone has their own way of getting psyched up before going out to meet women. Here’s a special meditation I’ve come up with to get you in the right frame of mind. Try it out and see for yourself if it should be part of your pre-sarge routine.
Sit in a comfortable position. If you’re in a chair, sit forward and don’t lean against the back, just sit up. Hands in your lap or in the “cosmic mudra.” Eyes closed most of the way, but not completely, head tilted slightly down. Take a deep breath, then let your breathing become normal. Be aware of it, but don’t control it.
Be aware of the feelings and emotions you’re experiencing right now, in anticipation of going out to meet women. There might be good stuff and bad stuff, but don’t evaluate it. Just be aware of it. Perhaps you feel elated, excited, nervous, worried, anxious, confused. Don’t dwell on any one feeling, emotion, or thought. Just be aware of them, like watching clouds floating by. Acknowledge each one, and let it go. Continue to be aware of your breathing as you do this. Your attention will drift back and forth, that’s ok. Just come back from time to time to your breathing. This will help make sure you aren’t attaching to and getting lost in any one thought or emotion. Let it all happen.
You should do this for at least 5 minutes, and no more than 20 if you’re new to meditation. If you’re an experienced meditator, use your own judgment. When you are done, stand up and see if you are still in the moment, still in that space where you can be aware without attaching or judging. Can you carry this with you? Can you bring it back?
While you are out meeting women, at any point in the process you can just take a deep breath to revisit this frame of mind. It’s a great space to be. It is not something fake we are trying to use to cover up feelings. It is your own true nature.
One last note for those who are new to meditation. Don’t worry about whether you are doing this “right” or not, or whether you should be feeling some certain way. There is no wrong way. Whatever you are feeling or thinking during this meditation, acknowledge it and let it go. That’s all.
Good luck.
CHAT