The girl i was interested in found my thread about her on the forum. I can't recover from this, i don't even know how to play it.

Ahh! That's FUCKED UP! What are the freaking chances of that?!

If you don't mind...HOW did she find this forum, that particular post, and on top of all THAT...figure out your nickname?

It's confusing! I would go about it with the saying that seems to keep coming up in my life in the Pick Up Arts: "Honesty is the best policy" I would tell her something along the lines of "Yeah, its true. You caught me, but the only reason I've been doing all of this is because I'm working on myself. I'm trying to develop more positive things in my life, and this community is a big help for me. I just wanted to be able to have the confidence to bring out my true personality around you. I wanted you to see me for who I AM, the real me. And so far I've been able to show that side of myself to you. If you're hurt that I posted something about you that you wouldn't care for other people to read about...then I will take it down. I just want you to know that I never used your name, anything truly personal about you or any real specifics about you and I. I hope this doesn't affect the relationship that we are forming because I feel like it's headed in a great direction and I'd love for us to be able to continue getting to know each other." (sugarcoating or skewing a few facts here or there couldn't hurt )

Not exactly sure, because I haven't been put in a situation like this....yet... but if I was in your shoes, that would probably be what I'd say. I could be wrong, I could be right...I'm not 100% on it, but this is definitely what I would go with unless I learn differently sometime in the future.

I'm sorry man, that is a shitty, shitty situation that no one here should ever have to experience. HOWEVER, if she can't handle this...and she won't accept any answer you decide to give her then you HAVE to be willing to lose her. That's just awful luck, but sometimes those are just the cards you're dealt. This situation seems very difficult to recover from so be willing to move on to the next batch of women. Hopefully there is no way for her to go about ruining your reputation or interactions with future women. Good Luck with all this, let me know how you handled this and how she took it.

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Thanks for the advice that is along the lines of what i was gonna say. I lost all frame with her. Sent her a couple texts. she says we will talk about it later. When she left, she said it wasn't terrible, but it wasn't good either, and that she had some stuff to think about. I come inside, and look at my history. Boom, she read it! She was on my comp, and new it was her based on the title. The forum is in my bookmarks. so yeah. I fucked this up. but i hope to salvage. she was not that upset when she left, but it hurts me. She isn't oneitis, but she is the first girl to ever get me like this. To actually freak out over something, and wanting to be with her. The next few days should be interesting.

Hey, she violated your privacy and you can't be appologizing for that. You're interested in her and some people are better with these things than you are, so you were trying to make it work with her. If she finds it offensive that you want to improve yourself, then maybe she's a different person than you thought she was.

You tell her that and she should smarten up, as well as not poke her nose through your private life. All you have to do is change the "she"s to "you" and the "you"s to "I/myself".

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thats crazy man. thats my only fear with this forum. i think i am going to change my avatar now so no one can see who i am just by my picture. :/ hope it comes through for you

Man that sux..

Another good reason why you should think twice about posting readily identifiable info about particular girls.

Or keep this forum, and this part of your life from them..

Rye Lee makes a good point. That's about the only way you can handle it now with this particular girl. Tell her it isn't any different than what her and her girlfriends do on a daily basis. Then give her some time to cool off.

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Thanks for the advice guys. Kinda funny though, i never thought i liked her like this. This is really bothering me. I sent her a text an hour ago, and have heard nothing from her. I guess I will give her more time. Sucks though, i really want to talk to her and straighten it all out. I don't think she minds the post in and of itself. I think what bothered her was the fact that I talked about it in a public forum. SHe said it gave her some things that she has to think about, and that we will talk when she is ready. My post wasn't that bad about her. MAde me look like i want a relationship. idk, just waiting to see whats up. this is gonna kill my inner game though, i can already feel that. I have just been sittin at home watching tv; i haven't even eatin yet. This is so not healthy. lol.

You should post a link to the post.

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You should be the one offended, she invaded your privacy. Fuck, go uber-alpha or something, what's left to lose.

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No. Overdoing it will just result in fucking things up worse and making her hate you. This is perfectly salvagable at this point still.

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after reading your post you seem to have respect for this girl and if she read that without emotions she should be proud of you. You did the right thing and just let her fall asleep next to you. in addition you seem to have the awareness that this girl is a relationship type girl and you didn't push her either.

My advice is make her read it again and see what you really wrote.. imo it works out better that she thinks you're a player because she can see how she is different than other women you've enjoyed.

I fully agree with Muse that honesty is the best policy. Why should any real PUA have to lie, deceive, and manipulate to get women. Anybody who does this is just a player and not a real PUA in my opinion (i think many would agree with me but many who do this will disagree of course) and you seem to understand that.

Good luck and let us know how it turns out.

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Ok, well the gigs up..

So what's the problem again?

You don't have to apologize for being a man or having manly desires.

If you can't talk your way out of this one with her, just forget her.

Plenty more where she came from.

Want to have her really back and begging? Go find yourself another hottie and parade her around for this girl to see.

You're worrying too much about this. Sounds to me like you in the dreaded 'pussy trance'.

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Numen: thanks for the advice man. You helped me put it all in a better frame.

Starbuck: Yeah, you could say I am in a pussy trance. lol. I am gonna quote that. My problem isn't so much that she read it, but the way she left. Not gonna lie here, she has gotten more emotion out of me (good or bad) then any girl ever has. I blew this out, but this is a whole new area for me.

No worries though, i am back to center. Already got a game plan. Ill let you guys know how this turns out. Now i just gotta figure out a new name to post under...lol

no problem man.. i'm the same way. I'm extremely calm and controlled.Very few women can illicit any type of emotional response from me either.. so any chick who can make me passionate or care about something, or beat me in mind games gets a check mark in my book.

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