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| firebird9386 | PostPosted: Mon Nov 05, 2007 4:34 pm | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Mon Oct 01, 2007 5:37 pm Posts: 19 Location: Sterling, Virginia | | Hey guys, hope everything is well with all of you. Got a little situation that I need to get off my chest and could use some advise on how I should handle this flakey ass chick! It's not one-itis b/c I'm seeing two other chicks at the moment and happy with how things are going with them. I had completely given up on this one chick because she was just being a total flake.
She is one of my friends sisters and have known her for awhile. A few years ago there was an attraction but nothing became of it for whatever reason. Now she broke up with her boyfriend about a month ago and she seemed to be digging me, she even told me herself that she has had a thing for me for awhile. After I ran some game, she started to flake badly.
- Cancelling when we had plans
- Bringing friends along sometimes when we did go out
- Telling me that she wasn't interested in a relationship right now (I'm not really either, tried telling her this but still nothing!)
- Telling me that she thinks of me like a brother and that she was afraid of getting attached to me because she knows that we would end up in a relationship)
- I ask her to tag along to places I'm already going and she always makes excuses
So I told her how it was recently, I said I wasn't going to play these stupid games with her and that either she wanted to do this or not! Plain and simple. Now she won't stop calling/texting me, she is always saying how funny I am and how she loves it. Should I give this another go or should I just blow her off and focus all my attention on the two chicks I'm already seeing?? I would love to F-close this chick but all my attempts are falling short. I'm not the type of dude who is gonna sit around and wait for her to make up her mind on what she wants to do! Is she just playing with my head and laughing about it with her friends?? Any input would be appreciated.
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| Trivial | PostPosted: Mon Nov 05, 2007 5:20 pm | |
Joined: Mon Sep 24, 2007 4:23 am Posts: 529 | | I would try to F-close. Just try making another attempt to hang out and if she cancels, I would then think about telling her to fuck off. Since right now she is trying to redeem herself, so give her a chance and see if she has changed.
She is most likely always going to play games because that is what she has probably done and you can only change her a little bit.
So just F-close it and see how it is from there.
But Im with you man on hating girls that play games. Just call them out on it!
Set standards and keep up the good work _________________ Perception is Reality
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| Advice | PostPosted: Mon Nov 05, 2007 5:30 pm | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Addict |  | Joined: Mon Sep 24, 2007 12:18 am Posts: 200 Location: Cincinnati | | exactly, say look, I'm not gonna play these bullshit games, I got other girls I'm seeing that I have a great time with, I'm not gonna deal with you being shady... be straight up with her, let her know you're seeing other girls, if she does like you then its gonna make her like you more... tell her shes got two strikes against her, 3 and you're done and be serious about it, if you let her walk all over you shes gonna do it as much as she can and take advantage of you as much as she can. Tell her no friends next time you go out and if she cancels then you won't be speaking with her for a while... You gotta be willing to walk away at any time. Maybe she's just afraid its gonna mess things up and cause drama since you're friends with her brother or whatever... _________________ any Man can sweep any Woman off her feet, you just have to have the right broom...
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| L.A. Tripp | PostPosted: Mon Nov 05, 2007 7:02 pm | |
| | | Like Advice said, she's got two strikes. One more and she's gone. But it's not important that YOU know that. What's important is that SHE knows that. And she DOESN'T DOUBT IT. You put your foot down and let her know she has ONE more chance and THAT'S IT. If she gets herself in line for that last chance, then fine. If she flakes again or does ANYTHING that she shouldn't do, it's done, over. MAKE THAT CLEAR TO HER. And, yes, if she DOESN'T know that you are seeing two other girls, let her know.
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