Hey Rhythmatic,

Seems like you've done your homework on the different methods! Opening with qualification is never 100%. Qualification is a later stage in game, usually when deep rapport is being built, and that isn't something that people will often get into right away.

The reason why my method is opening with comfort is because it really can work 100% every single time. Opening with comfort means you should never get blown out which will buy you more time.



Adam

Hey SexyJames,

The same technique to get a girlfriend is the same one that you would use to get a sex buddy.

Breaking down the entire way of how to get a friend with benefits or MLTR would take far too long to do in a forum post. Rather than type out 18 pages of text you can download my free e-book, Being Promiscuous, the MLTR handbook from my Web site, www.attractionexplained.com


Check it out, get it for free, and good luck!

Hey Ace Rimmer,

This is one that is always tough. There are a lot of girls that just do not feel comfortable giving out their details because they are at work. Sometimes there can be strict rules against how they deal with customers in the store.

The biggest thing to do would be to build a lot of comfort with them and go for a soft close. Most retail chicks are pretty party girls so invite them out to a party or nightclub in a group setting.

Also, building up social proof in the store can be huge. The more they see you and recognize you the more comfortable they will be.




Hope this helps



Adam

Adam,

What do I need when I go to girls with an objective of building up my abundance.

Should I game them and not hit on them? Or just give value and make them invest in me?

How long will it take to establish a powerful working element of abundance, if that is all I aim for when talking to girls?

Hey Adam do you have any tips on sexual escalation once you have compliance with a girl?
-She agrees to go back to your place.
-She's rubbing and stroking the inside of your thighs

I had a girl do this to me and I sorta knew that it was on. She threw up and I sorta lost my mindset/frame.

How would you approach a situation like this?

I felt anxious about doing anything at that point. Especially since it would be my "first time"

Thanks

Hey AFC Adam this is a hard one to crack, I need your opinion on this.

About two weeks ago I met this girl in line for the club, she had an accent so i couldn't help but to gravitate towards her (HB 9), we played in the club.. long story short eventually got the k-close came across as an interesting and very smooth/fun/confident guy, moved her out of the club we walked around making out in all different places and talking...she was really digging me. We ended up cuddling on a couch and making out. Next week I put in aloooot! of text game...every other fucking day thinking of the best texts the best times etc. she always texted back positively..but after 10min-1 hour after alot of ambiguity of whether her friends were gonna meet my friend at the nearby club scene she FINALLY said she would come. We chilled that night made out a lot to got to know each other a little more (in a fun way but still just the tip of the iceberg) for instance i found out what kind of wine she likes what sports, movies a little about brazilian culture, her height etc. and visa versa. I invited her to have coffee with me the next day, she thought it was to soon or something but we agreed for next week coffee then wine and a movie at my place;) (initially she hesitated about the wine at my place but before she left she, let me say that again, SHE suggested the wine and move, we had a fun night, i told her to call me when she got home to let me know she got there safe...she did.

OK so the next week same thing playful texts to her monday, wednesday and all positive responses (still 15min to 1 hour wait) THEN THE THURSDAY TEXT I GAVE HER WENT LIKE THIS ((with wink face)) "i just thought the perfect thing thing to show you saturday;) AND SHE THREW THE FIRST BIG CURVEBALL "Cool...but i have bad news...i will work saturday. my host parents said for me today morning they will a dinner and i will watch the kids all night. so i cant go". WHAT THE FUK!!! THAT WAS IT SO THAT NIGHT(8 hrs later) I TEXTED HER THIS "no prob i'll hang with the boys saturday let me know whens a good time, and if it fits my schedule i'll give the OK". Now granted, its still taht night now im still pissed for putting in all this work and getting a text that looks like a flake. What can i do if she doesn;t text back? I dont get why she flaked, was the first text i sent that day sounding sexual...is this a shit test. PLEASE HELP. this girl is hot...and from brazil...and i LOOOOOOVE foreign women. I put in mad work my game was tight. was it to much playfulness not enough comfort? I think maybe all my texts throughout the two weeks were playful. HELP!! facts that may be helpful about the times we chilled 1. she says i'm a "bad boy" with certainty, not with a negative nor playful tone...she says she is a good girl often, although sometimes i make fun of her and say shes lying 2. She insinuates that i'm a player every so often during our two chillings...she says (what i've heard from a lot of women and still don't know if its good or bad) you know how to talk to women (with a, you say the right things but it sounds like you might say similar things to a lot of other women, undertone)

Thanks Adam, i'll give your advice a try.

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Hey AFCAdam,

Thank you for doing this, it means a lot us guys.
I was wondering what your opinions, theory, tips and thechniques are for a relationship. I have attracted this girl, in fact shes the one that was upfront about the whole relationship, despite the fact I asked her if she wanted to be with me. She kinda controlled all the steps before and obvioulsy its upto the man to take it to the next step even if the woman has prepaerd for it. It jus feels like she isnt as... "attached" to me as before. Maybe its just me being needy because of the sudden relationship. But I would really like to know how you maintain a strong healthy long term relationship. Please keep in mind I am in my late teens and this is one of the first relationships in my life.

Once again thank you for your help.

hey adam, i just wanted to ask you for your advice with my circumstances with girls and what can i do to dramatically improve my skills. I find it hard to get girls, i am 22 years old, but from the age of around 9 till about 18, girls always seemed to like me, find me cute and approach me or get their friend to do it, due to the fact that im quite shy, i did pass up a few opportunities,(i must admit) however few years and several failed relationships later, i feel ive lost my mojo.

I feel too self Consciousness about myself due to my previous experiences, thinking i am not attractive to the girls i meet and when i do get a girl, i never seem to hold a relationship for long enough. Therefore ive never had a relationship span more than 4 months! For various reasons all of my relationships have been dissappointing, people i know would tell me that they were just not the right girls for me but if i were to ask them, they would probably tell me that im too nice, (not really their type basically) too emotionally attached or its not me its them and they are not looking for a relationship SPAM and gave me superficial excuses.
To sum things up, yes i do get emotionally attached sometimes too quickly especially because of the way they made me feel. And everybody tells me that i am too nice, very compassionate which is really good and have all the inner qualities that girls would look for in a guy and that i should wait for the right girl to come along. But NEWS FLASH! The reality is by the time i wait for mrs right, il be 30 years old. If im still waiting after that then il hit 40 yrs etc, etc, do you get my drift? I dont believe in waiting for chances i just believe in making things happen, manifesting my chances as best as possible. If ive done it before, i can do it again type thing.

I am getting older now and everyone else i know is in a relationship even my 2 oldest friends who when we were back in school, wouldnt even look at a girl because they were ridiculously shy and timid.
But now they have hit the top of their game and i feel as if im at rock bottom! Its been a long time since ive felt really good about myself with the opposite sex and i really need to get it back! i know ive got potential that needs to be fullfilled, i mean im not ugly, im not fat, im not a bum and i am certainly not an A-HOLE or a crazy mofo! I am ambitious, philospical, funny, self motivated, polite, friendly, Im just a really cool dude.
I want to get every girl that i like or who is attractive. And more importantly i wanna get a girlfriend asap and have that long term relationship where we just do normal things together like other couples but everythings cool. Shes got to be
pretty, shes got to have a great personality, shes just got to be amazing!
Iam sick and tired of being single its not boring anymore its suicide! Its depressing, its tormenting, ITS JUST NOT ME LOL!

So please adam hit me with some thoughtful feedback on how to get my mojo back!

Sorry it is a very lengthy message, so you dont have to return the same courtesy just give me any thoughts and knowledge on what you think and what i should do!

Yours faithfully



Andrew.

Hey man,

Awesome thread. I did an honest criticism of myself after looking at a couple of videos and I've noticed that I'm usually pretty good at opening, I have a naturally funny demeanor. The problem arrives when I try and escalate from there, I just seem to freeze up as soon as I realize that the girl is interested..... it seems ironic and backwards.. but do you have any way of gettin through that phase?

Wow.. awesome thread. I skimmed through some of it so I'm sorry if I'm asking the same question that's already asked. Anyway, it's simple (not really):

What are your beliefs, Adam?

When it comes to picking up women, the materials you use, women in general, etc.

I'm asking because I'm reading a book by Anthony Robbins titled "Unlimited Power" and he said that you could model successful people and get the same successful results. But you must know what that person's beliefs are (among other things). It also doesn't hurt if you could say WHY you have those beliefs. Thanks in advance!


P.S. I was going to take one of your BC's in Seattle this month or next month.. but I'm deploying next month. Maybe next year!

Hey Xtheorist,

If someone is saying that you're childish or acting like a child the first thing you should do is take a look at why she might be saying it. Is it true? Do you act immature with her? Don't immediately dismiss it as a shit test, there might be some truth to it.

Secondly, there might not be anything wrong with being childish! If you're ok with acting silly then just tell her that you want to have fun and she should try and join you in having a good time. Instead of being childish at her, invite her to be childish with you. That will help build rapport and a connection with you and then it can really work in your favour.

Hope this helps mate!

Adam

Hey Manic,


It's awesome that you can approach, but when it comes to having a conversation I would agree with the girls about how just asking the worst thing you hate about guys out of nowhere is a bit random. You should never have to resort to writing down everything that might have worked and turning them into routines. Instead make sure that you are actively listening to girls when you are speaking to them.

Actively listening means actually responding to what they are saying. Use what they tell you as material to start new conversations and sentences. If you're using an opinion opener then you will get more than a one word response, so use their answers as conversational pieces.

Now I'm not exactly sure what you mean about 'reaction seeking' but if you're getting called out on by more than one girl about trying to get a reaction out of them then you might want to tone down the approach because it might be coming on too strong. If you could give me more info I could help you better with this one.

And as for a 20-year-old with no girlfriend and only having done 35 approaches in a year... My advice is the one you didn't want me to say. Practice and approach a LOT more. I used to approach 35 girls a day when I was doing this hard core. Even if your city isn't good for practicing, there are still people in your life every day who make good practice ground. Everytime you go to the store, grocery shopping, coffee shop, etc., speak to the people who work there, young or old, and practice on them. And since its hard to get out you need to make sure that when you do go out you're not wasting any time and making every approach count.


Good luck on your journey, mate. I'm sure you've done a hell of a lot of improving and you will continue to improve if you apply yourself!


Adam

Hey Buzzlightyear2k,

The best way to handle this is to make sure that you LJBF the girls immediately first. Try and grow your social circle of friends by going out with no intentions to game girls, but to meet them and add them to your social life.

Now this will work amazingly because your preselection will grow. Because you're not trying to pick up any of the chicks the girls will seek validation and want you, and the more that want you the more others will want you. This works amazingly for social proof!

Women have all reacted differently when it comes to knowing what I do. I've always been upfront and honest. Some girls love it, some hate it. There were always mixed reactions. You'll often find that most girls are interested in it and want to know all about it. They usually eat this stuff up... girls love to talk about dating and relationships!



Adam

Hey Marc,

Yes, women do communicate differently than men which is why dating and relationships is a billion dollar industry with people trying to figure it out! Women are very sexual but they wan't someone who will be in control and not make them bad for wanting to be sexual. As long as you can lead the situation in a way that will make her feel like her morals or value is not being jeopardized then there should be no problem with escalation.

Yes I have lived it all and had my fair share of women, but having that does not give self fullfillment. I am not looking for my special someone anymore because I have found her and we are getting married in just a few weeks. I started this journey to find the one I wanted to be with forever and I have found it.

Good luck with getting your self fullfillment.

Adam