Adam!

Been reading your stuff and seeing your vids on YouTube. Really like your style, you definitely deserve your #3. I'm sure you hear praise all the time, but let's be honest here, it never gets old right?

This isn't a question on game itself. I missed the seminar last night with you and Sinn, due to exam revision (fun...) and time-zone issues. You don't by any chance have a downloadable version?

Cheers

Hey adam, I wanted to post this question in the Ask AFCAdam thread but I decided it might be better to PM you.

I was hoping you might evaluate this one time conversation as all conversations seem to lead on this path and it may be because I'm doing something incorrectly or not doing something at all.

I met this girl at a party indirectly. Me and my wing were walking by when a group of 6 girls asked us to take their pictures and I replied, I don't take pictures, I get in them. So we took so pictures together. It turns out I knew two of the girls and I found my picture on face book. (It was quite hilarious)

Girl adds me on face book and my reply is:

me:You know, I was going to ask where my friend invite was until you beat me to the punch. Way to go

her:lol...always one step aheadd..
its how i roll

haha
nice meeting you!


me: ha ha I guess I'll have to keep an eye on you. I don't like people stepping ahead of me

her:lol.. damnnn baysidee??
seenas from there!!
small worldd

me: A small world maybe for a farm girl from Ohio. Btw did you have pigs? I could totally see you naming one Mr.Oinkers!

her: OH NO YOU DIDNT!

^^ thats to be accompanied by a *z snap*
btww

umm no... no pigs..
several cows and some sheep... some geese, chicken...lions, tigers, bears..
ya know..
the ususal


me: I can totally tell your the trouble maker of the group


her pshhh pleasee.
youve got the wrong girl hahah


me: My nose is quite awesome for sniffing out the trouble makers.
Are you calling me a liar missy? >;]


her: hah yea.. im callin you out.
what u gonna do?


me: Ha ha wouldn't you like to know Only one way to find out though farm girl!

her :tryna start something, bayside?

aight...
bring it!


me: Anytime, anywhere farm girl.

I don't think you have what it takes to take me on. You might want to come back in ohhh let's say hmnn... 5 years when your ready.

I can see the headlines now. "Guy super pokes farm girl to death."

herThis is where it seems to turn tides IMO)
pshh right..
all talk

me:Missy, If you want me to 'rough' you up all you have to say is pretty please ;]

Try me. We'll see who's all talk :]

her:
haha
no roughing up!


me:Aww darn! I guess I overestimated you. It's alright you'll always be semi cool in my books!

Haha! maybe not


Thats the end of it. Im sorry for the really long convo. My luck/success always seems to turn once I keep it going. Im not discouraged at all as it was a massive change from my RAFC day's like a year or two ago.

I might also like to add that im quite a big guy. (215 pounds at 5'11 pretty lean muscle mass) I would have to say that natural game would fit me quite nicely since im a fairly attractive guy as well. Perhaps I was too intimidating? Your breakdown would be GREATLY appreciated. Im sorry for the long post ><

Agian your work and your natural style just amazes me. You are an inspiration to us men Adam

Thanks agian!

Hey mate

I want you to give me a name of a book you think changed you. Im not talking about a pu book, just something that you found interesting (i know u like psychology and so do i).

Im trying to read more instead of watching tv. So let me know Adam, take it easy man.

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Hi Adam

Absolutely fascinated by the marriage opener/close! Seen the youtube video and read a bit about it in your diary on your site. Could you run me through it step by step as me and my wing wanna try it out! We're going to give it a go next week when we go to vegas for giggles and to see if we can get it to work cos we've got to a stage were we wanna mix it up a bit.

Cheers mate

G

Hey Adam just a quick question about your social proof theory
And yes this is not your writing, but this is exactly what confused about and relates to your theory of social proof. If your goal is to find good pivots and good friend girls, I see it as kinda of hard to integrate yourself in their inner circle when you first met them if you don't have a specific target chosen. And even if you integrate, become friends they will think you are interested in someone of them because it is not a norm for them for a guy just to want make new friend girls, right?

Question 1: So do you have to chose one girl, befriend her so she can introduce you to her inner circle and be ‘that guy I told you about’, or try to be friends with everyone without a specific target (which ones again I said I think it's not a norm for girl)?

Question 2: After you friend them is in it hard to close with one of them , because someone in the group probably will be attracted to you and and the target knowing about her girl friend's like for you, she won't close with you or escalate further, even when you have a lot of Value?

This are the first 2 question that came into my mind which I couldn't find answers for when I first read your theory, so they are mainly for Adam but if you guys have any answers to it (like DallyingDreamer did), I would deeply appreciate them, thanks.

V3nu

Hey, just wanted to say I appreciate you taking people's questions. Very nice of you.

Anyway, I'm gaming this girl who I'm friends with, but my other PUA friend said she was gaming me quite obviously. & I quite like her too. So, any tips for the meet (first time in a few months). She's a HB8, and 9 when she tries. Anything deffo not to do would be appreciated.

Hey Adam I need your help!

I've been working on my game for a year or so. About 3 months ago I stopped reading up on the forum and I kind of stopped thinking about game. I started playing WOW with one of my buddies and felt content spending the rest of my time studying, working out, or chillin with my girlfriend.

The past week or so I've noticed my interactions have really started to AFC out. Even with female friends that I've made (potential future hookups), I'm struggling to have any game about me. I've always been very real with them, but suddenly I feel really akward and bored with my interactions.

I went to the grocery store today to pickup some food. It's one of my favorite places to talk to women because they're generally really open and receptive there. I seriously couldn't even open! I'd say a few words and stumble on them, and talking for more than 20 seconds seemed like an anxiety attack in a bottle!

What's going on here? I suddenly feel like a total AFC and its the opposite of how i used to behave just a few months ago. It's like when they stole Austin Powers mojo...

What can I do to get myself in the right frame and to rejuvenate my game?

CPT

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I'm not adam, but I think you just need to get back in the game. I've seen lots of people ask this question when i "SEARCHED" *cough cough*

Think about it from this perspective, your afraid of heights. You then become a construction worker working on very tall high up buildings. You get used to the height as it has become a habit for you to embrace the heights.

You suddenly stop for a year and then start up agian. Those first moments that you get back on the skyscrapers you'll feel the anxiety and fear as if you never worked in these types of conditions. I think it has to do with your subconscious. There's a reason they tell you to go out and talk to people if you want to learn how to interact with women. Women are people too! And if you stop the interactions you suddenly feel weird starting it up agian.

Hey Adam it's me again!!


It's an absurdly long and detailed, so get some chips or something.
I've been approaching a girl for 6 months now. (actually she's the girl in my avatar) . I can't meet her because both of us are too busy.Connection, rapport and everything was build via texts and phones. She got too much stuff to do, preparation for graduation, etc. But...

Finally, she hung out with me yesterday!! But not with me alone, we go with my friends too. She appears to be shy , family girl (every relationship/ friendship with boys are controlled by her parents), never been on a relationship before, having few male friends, and so that makes her completely clumsy with the boys. And for God's sake, she didn't accept my kino on her face!

Anyway, I told her the day before we met, there's a bazaar going in my school. I texted her that she should come along, there's a lots of people, so there's no chance that you'd do "anything dangerous" to me. She texted back "I never will. I'm not interested. XP. See you tomorrow anyway". I just texted back saying " like the TVs said, there's 1000 ways to seduce you , good night and see ya!"

The next day she came to my school, she said that the bazaar stuff was really boring, I don't know what to do, I asked an advice from a friend he said just show her the place around. So we walked around the school and she played the piano a lil bit for me. Quite romantic isn't it??

After that we got back to my friends, I left her in the hands of my friends, and I'm just looking around to find and making friends, (to generate social proof). And after some moment I got back to her and said

Me: Let's go out
HB: Where?
Me: My house, it's boring around here. You can get free lunch there. And we can do something else, like playing on the piano (the piano is better in my house, so it's quite good of a reason, besides she promised me that she'll play)
HB: No way I'll go with you alone, I"ll stay with Grace (Grace is my best friend)
Me: But Grace's is waiting for her friend. You decide, u want to stay here and get bored or go out with me and do something else?
HB:.... I'll ask Grace

Then she asked Grace and Grace told her that she'll tell her friends 1st. While Grace's off, I isolate and were talking with her. I talked her about her ambitions, place that she wants to visit, and about kissing stuff. Then I tried to kino her on the face, tell her that her face looked really similar to my sister, but she rejected it. Then Grace came and we're off to my house.

On the way home, I met a lot of friends, the shop clerks, neighbours and HB said "You know everybody around here?????" And I just said "I'm Adam Lyons" (I told her about you before, but she didn't know that you're a pickup guru and I'm learning pickup, just told her that u're a guy with killing smile . She laughed and we continued walking.

Before we arrived she said "Umm, can't we go to Grace's place instead?? It's just I don't feel good if my parents know that I go to a boy's house." I said "Nah, it's just 3 more houses away". Finally we arrived at my place and she met my mum (is it going serious now?) and chatted with her a lil bit. She played the piano, chatted and eventually before she leaves we took a pic.

In the night I texted her (maybe it's negging, I don't know) "Hey, HB, thanks for behaving like a queen (she's really quiet back there, so is it negging?) Haha.. Seriously. I thought that u were a girl with some naughty attitude, but it's proven that I'm wrong. U're completely a nice girl, aren't u? Anyway, although today was boring, I enjoyed ur playing. Just need more expression,touch, and feelin. The next time we meet, let's do somehting more fun. I always try to do different things everytime I meet people. I don't like doing the same stuff continously. Don't u feel so??:) Good night .

And she didn't reply.

My question is:
1) What should I've done while we're in the school??
2) She didn't accept my kino, she freezed me out a few times, I did the same thing to build comfort. What should I do??
3) What I shouldn't have done??

Sorry for unnecessary details, I just want to post it as detailed as possible.

Thanks man!!

Best pal,
Steven

Ever since i came to Ireland when i was 10 i became more depressed day by day
. There is nothing to do here and the case was that there were no beautiful women that would have met my standards before. But now it has gotten to the point where i just don't care even though i am surrounded by beautiful women. I feel like i am an unaccomplished person who's an embarrassment to my family.

I go to college , I am 19 years of age, jobless and officially women less. I am depressed nearly every day which is eventually gonna leave me to having zero friends since i am becoming more and more distant from humanity.

This is my story and i am asking you guys to give me some suggestions to heal my mind and maybe if you can, inspire me or motivate me to try.

Go to counseling? seek professional help? lol

V3nu

Adam,

I don't really want to follow a step-by-step method (because it feels lame and less fun for me) but I DO want to consciously satisfy the basic key requirements, and use the main fundamental concepts to boost my game.

1. Social Proof
2. Qualification
3. Sexual Escalation.

Your build rapport/break rapport system is quick and satisfies all the requirements.

But I have a few questions:

1. Do you have to always be playful/teasing to break rapport, or should she FEEL that this guy is actually getting disinterested in me?

2. Social Proof - I don't have a big apt to hold parties, neither do I know anybody my age here, I am in a new city for work. I have a huge popular mall across the street from my workplace. I see high school and junior college girls there. The hired guns are nice though. Anyway, my questions is:

Can I go upto girls (anyone above 19/21) and build some basic rapport with them, and ask them if they wanna join me on Friday night at xyz club to have fun?

Can I just be honest and say I'm new and looking for friends, and it doesn't feel very nice to go into the clubs alone.

<It's pretty obvious that I'm not necessarily DHVing myself here, but I'm being simple and honest, and not really looking to get anything from them, except for a little company at the clubs>

What are your thoughts?..

Hey bud

That's real cool of you to open up to everyone here. I bet there's a lot of guys on the forum that can relate to your story. From what you're saying it sounds like you have a lot of work to do, so don't expect the changes to come easily or quickly.

If I were you I would start identifying things i love to do. Make it a challenge for yourself that every single day you will go out and do something you've never done before (whether it be for 5 minutes or 5 hours), and don't care if you're good at it. All that matters is that you're trying new stuff.

Eventually you'll find some things you love to do. Once you start identifying these things start doing one every day at a certain time. That'll be your zone where nothing bugs ya and you'll leave that activity always feeling good. For me it's working out at the gym or studying chemistry. (yes i'm a total science nerd)

From there you still got a lot of work. Start a new thread at that point and I bet a lot of the dudes on here can guide ya well.

CPT

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Adam,

This isn't really a question so hopefully the moderators will let it slide. (Please)

Anyway, I just got home from your talk with Casanova Crew tonight and wanted to say it was f-ing awesome. Jeezus man, you know how to give a talk. All your points were great and I definitely learned a TON. You broke game down to a level that I think CC as a whole needed to hear.

1. Confidence, with an ability to lead
2. Abundance
3. Ability to sexually escalate

It's so simple - that's all you need! I'm going to start focusing on those three areas of my life to begin building an excellent lifestyle.

Thanks again man. You completely kicked ass!

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Hi Adam, How do you break rapport without completely breaking the comfort/connection you've built? I know this is a calibration issue, which will vary from girl to girl and situation to situation, but have you gleaned some basic way to instruct the relatively new to pickup how this is achieved? I'm not all that new, but I have trouble with this sometimes.

I've always found that 'calling it out', basically saying "I'm sorry that was a bit much ...," is the only way to fix that situation, but most of the time it dumps you right back in comfort ... if you're lucky. It's usually a one-way ticket to friendzone after that, and while that's good it's not the goal.

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Devil's Advocate

"You're only as young as the women you feel."
"I am the Master of my unspoken words, and the Slave to those words that should have remained unsaid."