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With 30k a year, you simply cannot afford a 3k vacation. I've been there, some of my friends are still there. 1k is a stretch for many nowadays. Not sure where you're getting your numbers from.
Maybe because you live in Romania, 30k seems like a God send. But it's not. Not if you want to live in a good and clean low-crime area, decent transportation, a decent insurance, rent/mortgage, student loans, and the rest of life.
Fine, take my example and divide it by 4. It was merely a means to illustrate a point.
If 1k is "a stretch" for most to spend on a vacation, then a vacation should not make their priority list.
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And the point R.C. was making is that if the man says we are going on a vacation YOU can afford, then be okay with it being split down the middle.
If you complain "but but I want to go to Bali!" and it is clearly out of your price range, you have no business suggesting a trip which you clearly can't afford.
on the other hand, if the man wants to go to Bali, then yes, it would be unfair to you to pay down the middle. It goes both ways in the end. Look at the bigger picture here.
That's another good way to put it.
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While you guys are rambling on and protesting (which is useless on this forum), all of my friend's boyfriends/fiancees/husbands (except 1) foot most of the costs....without any complaints. Most make significantly more than their partners, too.
I don't know why you think examples from your personal life are relevant. In some countries of the world it's considered normal to molest kids. You coming over here saying your friends do it does not make it right, acceptable or otherwise valid. Anecdotes are not valid.
Besides, the problem you seem to have is that you think women are or should be entitled to a man's salary. I never look at money when I spend it, be it on dates, vacations, your drink or whatever. Right up until you start acting entitled to that privilege.
That's the point, there's nothing wrong with supporting a majority of the costs as long as you can easily afford doing so. But you have to be deserving of that.
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