Dear Desertfox565,

Yep it applies to all women, this isn't a method really it's just the explanation for the way humans view attraction in it's simplest form, the applications can be extremely varied but the principles remain the same.

At no point should you be accused of asking big questions, it should be a natural progression. It sounds like your escalation is the problem mate, you've gone from small investment to huge investment instead of growing it gradually.

The principles of game remain the same on all women but the intensity of each stage depends on the girl, and that's where calibration comes into play. Some girls need more comfort, while others need more sexual escalation. You cant limit yourself or women into nice little boxes, you need to give yourself room to move and roll with whatever comes up.

Don't worry about generalizations, Start thinking about the specifics of the girl

AFC Adam,

Formerly-AFC Adam,



In high school I was never really popular. Had a few core friends but never got invited to parties for a chance to socialize with new people, etc. So here I am in the real world with a malnourished social repertoire.

Last friday I went to a club. Met a guy who is well connected and we hit it off. He invited me back to the same club last night. All of his friends were there, and in the process of getting a drink I had probably 5 people on me asking me how I knew him...

My question is this - is "social circle game" better than "cold pickup game?" It seems like it is a lot easier, and would allow me to exercise my social muscle. Sort of like jumping straight to comfort with new people. I will say that I felt like a rock star last night with girls all over me! Great feeling!! btw, this is probably the 4th time I've been in a club... it takes some getting used to, but now I'm starting to have fun.

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Dear Adam,

I really think this topic is awesome! It's like private coaching from Michael Jordan, Tiger Woods or Michael Schumager, but in the area of pick up.
You must be working like crazy to keep up with all these questions..

I have two questions and will try to keep it short: I am a member of the VIP-section of your site and in one of the many movies you talk about "advanced techniques to create comfort". I was wondering if you could explain a little bit on how you create (initial) comfort with a stranger.
First question: what is the best way to create comfort?

You use the term 'adding value' a lot. By now I understand it a lot better, because of your earlier explanations in this topic.
This is my question: Are there some general ways to add value that work most of the time? I noticed that when I am interested in finding out about her (i.e. she can talk about herself); she enjoys my company. I also noticed that I can't get some girls to start talking about themselves to me (especially in clubs).
I figured that the reason for this is because I don't have enough value. Preselection solves this problem most of the time..
But I was wondering how you decide in which way you're going to add value to a set. I understand it depends on the situation, but are there some general ways to add value that work most of the time?

Thanks in advance!!
The VIP-section on your site is great btw! It's the only program I decided to invest a little bit of money in and I am glad I did, because otherwise I would have missed out on all the great content inside. Keep up the good work!

Ciao Topdown


PS. I discovered this topic by accident, so ever considered to add this topic with a link to your site (attractionexplained,com)? It might be useful for others, so even more people can benefit from this..

Very good advice, cheers Adam. I'll admit i invested more in this at the start, but i've backed off some the past few weeks, and i will start again from the non-committal comfort stage.

Liked how you mentioned laughing off my friends actions. Plainly obvious she's still hung up on him, and tbf i'm not looking to be the fall back option, no way. I'm also getting the 'SNAKE!' SPAM from mutual friends, purely banter of course, but it's happening around those two, and i'm left having to laugh it off. Which isn't really fair, i'm no snake!

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Hello Adam!

I'm pre-registered for your bootcamp in Atlanta, GA, on May 17-18. I'm assuming it would be convenient for all the "students" to stay in the same hotel. Is there a reasonably priced hotel near where the best action scene is?

Just as an FYI, I'll be driving to Atlanta (a few hundred miles), so I'll have a car available to drive 4 of us (can squeeze in 5) around if needed. Hell, I'll even pick you up from the airport if you need me too.

Btw, if anyone else is going to this bootcamp, please post or PM me...let's get acquainted (create our "social proof") before we meetup in Hot 'Lanta.

Lookin' forward to it!

Cheers bro,
Gruuve

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Hi Adam,
Love your formula and i truly believe it is the best out there, hopefully someday you will be crowned #1 in the world, and show what us Brits rli can do

I was wondering on your views of being a pua at such an early age, as i am 16. There have been widespread ideas on this, and would love to know your thoughts and opinions.
Ive been studying your game and various other for a while now, and after reading about your expieriences in high school can learn from your misfortunes and help me down a brighter path.

Hi Adam. I'm not sure if this has been asked yet. If so just delete my post and point me elsewhere. Thanks!

Moral implications aside, what should I do when a girl is into my game and reciprocating and then drops the "my BF blah blah blah". Is this a shit test? It's obvious she wants to party. Why then? How do you get past this?

PS Are you the Brittish Adam on YouTube who always wears the ball cap? Wait a sec... He's totally an Australian. Woops.

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Whats up AFC Adam,

2 questions

I am planning on going to the summer bootcamp. Was wondering if the instructors do any infield sarging these nights or how that all works?

How does one handle going out with afc's. It really bothers me when i try and spit game and they are standing behind me breathing behind my neck.

Hi Adam, it's Cococo again.
It's kinda embarrasing for me to tell this, but I must admit it: I have a little penis, and I realized that it is somehow stopping me from doing sexual advances with the girls. I know I shouldn't worry about something like this, and I should be proud about what I have. But this issue is still giving me sexual anxiety. I've been kinda obsessed with this problem, and me being a virgin and being porn (not real life) the only source of info that I have had about sex doesn't help.

Do you have any advice?

thanks

I hope Adam doesn't mind me answering this one...I might not be a highly skilled PUA (yet), but I do know quite a bit about sex, most of it from experience (was married 13 years and fucked thousands of times!). You call yourself small, and if you're judging by porn, you might have a flawed measurement. Around 5-6" is what's generally reported as average...guess what, the average vagina is 5-6" deep. So, you need to reconsider whether you are truly "small" or not...you may not be. Also, the nerve endings that can feel touch sensations are all in the first 2" or so of the vagina (plus the labia, clitoris, g-spot, etc.) If you have a dick the size of a baby carrot, it's still enough to tickle her g-spot. With me? A vagina has nerve endings all the way to the bottom, but those nerve endings are buried deep and only capable of feeling pressure, not the normal touch sensation. So, if you have a fairly average sized penis, you have nothing to worry about in being able to please a woman. Keep in mind that you also have fingers, a mouth, and a tongue that you can use on her. Bury your face in her muff long enough to give her a few orgasms, and she won't care what size your dick is.

Now, there IS visual appeal in having a large schlong...it's very sexy for a woman to see a man's 8" dick. However, generally someone with that large of a schlong can't even get it all the way in without hurting the woman (unless she's one of the small statistics with an 8" deep vagina). Some women are turned off by too large of a penis because they know it's going to hurt, and that knowledge is very distracting and un-erotic. I'm just slightly above average length, and I have hurt my ex-wife quite a few times (to the point of giving her uterus cramps or even making her uterus bleed by slamming into it). Too large of a penis can take some of the pleasure out of sex, especially in a position that allows deeper penetration.

And one other thing to consider...as men age, we start to be troubled by ED (erectile dysfunction...inability to maintain a hard-on, sometimes occasional, sometimes consistently). This can onset anywhere from late 30's to early 50's. A larger penis takes more blood to make it erect...an average or smaller penis takes less blood, and is less impacted by ED when it does onset. There's a silver lining in every cloud, bud.

Don't believe most of what you see on porn...they are actors. They hire women with huge tits and men with huge schlongs...it's more exciting to watch. But that's generally not how real sex is, so take porn with a grain of salt.

Also, I shave my nuts and shaft, and trim all the pubes very short. Weedwacking the bush makes what you have look much larger. I think a lot of women appreciate that grooming as well...they can snack without flossing, if you follow me.

Rather than feeling insecure and worrying about how large your schlong is, put some study into sex....learn positions that would be good for average or small penises, learn about a woman's body parts and how to touch them in a way that feels good to her, learn how to give her a g-spot orgasm with your fingers, learn how to give her a clitoral orgasm with your mouth, etc. This is stuff you can study without a partner and then practice with a partner. In fact, since you are young, something you might want to try is finding some older women who are divorced, flirt with them, and for the one or ones who flirt back, get to know her a bit, let her know that you're a virgin, and let her know that you wish you had someone to learn and practice with. Mention this to the right older woman, and you'll likely find she is more than happy to throw you down and teach you the ropes!

Cheers bro,
Gruuve

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Hi Adam wondered your opinion on this?

Im in a relationship at the moment, i've been with my GF for a month today. Been seeing her for a long while like Jan/Feb time we started getting closer.

I've got a few issues that I've tried to deal with myself but I just am at wits end! Really starting to irritate and sometimes get me down I'm 17 and shes a year below me shes 16, shes not a virgin either, shes not had a BF for about a year or so and her last BF had a car. We haven't had sex yet its not really been possible as you will see when you read on..

Basically I hardly see her that often, maybe once a week if im lucky, sometimes more, she lives about a 30 min walk from me and literally 2 mins in the car but im not driving yet Sad.

Now whats getting to me is that she'll send me a text every now and again with a love you at the end (i hardly ever do because i believe that if i say it all the time then she'll take it for granted but if she says it i'll say it back) and she always seems to want to text me or ring me so I get all the right messages but its like she NEVER makes the effort to meet me. Like this week being a exception i said i'd come and see her on wednesday night and she told me she wanted to go jogging with her friend, she'd been jogging with her friend on monday night and tuesday night. Usually if i say come meet me she will. But she'll never say something like "come over tonight i want to see you or watch a film with you" for once i'd like her to say come over and see me or something.

I've confronted her once about making these stupid excuses and not making the effort, basically i just talked to her about it and she rather avoided it.

Shes got time to see her friends and go camping with her friends like she is on saturday night but not the time to spend with me? I mean I would pick my friends over spending time with her but she hasn't even offered to do somthing with me?!

I want to put a stop to this.. should I hint that I loved the fact that my ex girlfriend used to suggest things like watching a film at her place? Should I turn round and threaten to finish the relationship if she doesnt start making an effort? Should I neg her? I really just don't have a clue what to do... SPAM I feel like finishing it because it annoys me so much but I don't want to because we could be so good together.

Im not scared to lose her in anyway but I want it to work out.. Im unattached but I give a fuck if you like.

If you need any more info let me know
Could really do with some enlightenment.

Great idea! I booked a flight/hotel deal through Orbitz for the Baymont Inn and Suites--it's within 2 miles of the night game spots and 5 miles of the day game area (according to Amanda from puatraining), so should be an easy cab ride or drive to get around. The hotel might be on the pricey side without the package deal...hopefully it's still reasonable.

I'll arrive in town late afternoon on Thursday the 14th, and I'd appreciate a ride from the airport. I'll get you a drink for it later. I'm putting out an open invitation for anyone going to the BC to meet for dinner that evening and mingle, then go out and explore in the night.

Gruuve, I sent you a PM to talk further--no sense in hijacking Adam's thread.

Speaking of the devil, I just have to echo all the gratitude from the rest of the thread...this was very generous to the community, and a good supplement to the material. I found this thread after signing up for the bootcamp, and Adam, after reading this I'm confident that you're the right person for me to learn from

I'm psyched for May, can't wait!

Well if you all are going. So am I!

hey adam, just a small question... do you think this whole "pick up" thing has got out of hand? i mean people are going round (especially the new guys) making people like you into man made gods and worshiping the "mpuas" paying them hundreds or thousands of pounds to help them when they could probably help themselfs... i mean look at your picture at the top of this website, its glowing...

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Dear Adam,

This girl I like now has a boyfriend. I commented on her FB status the other night, and then her bf messaged me telling me back off (Insecure maybe?). I told him off proper. Naturally, I'm laughing at his jealousy and insecurities. Any advice you have?