when I talk about "alpha" below, i'm talking about the classically male definition (strongest personality, leader of men)

to handle an "alpha female" a male would have to have one of the following traits.
1) be very alpha himself... and be able to out alpha her -or-
2) be will to serve a subservient role in that relationship

most men aren't either of the above, so most women try to avoid being seen as "alpha" to increase their chances of meeting a desirable mate.

In a group made up of entirely women, many times an "alpha" will emerge, but she will quickly leave the role as soon as any male enters the group.

However, I believe there is an alternate definition of "alpha" for females, which is mainly defined by a females looks. Other females tend to follow around a more attractive female, because it increases their chances for social interaction with males, and may lead to socialization with a male that she may not otherwise be able to attract.



man, i love talking about psychology, and male female interactions for hour... the differences between males and females are fascinating.

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"He who risks the most, wins the most"

As far as approaching a guy goes, I will tell you the same thing that I tell my students:

"You don't need to say something good, just say SOMETHING."

If you can get that down, then you can make an approach. Once you have said anything at all, then you just need to be able to keep talking and make it interesting. If you are boring, you're gonna get rejected if the guy has any value. The worst approaches ever are when the person approaching comes up to the other person and then expects THEM to be interesting and entertain them, because the person that approaches is the one that carries 90% of the conversation for the first bit.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye