I'm gonna raise my hand here and admit to having been one of these people you're talking about...and recently too.
However, the way I see it, one-itis is largely, irrational. If you think about it, you're getting all loved up and obsessed over one girl, when really, the majority of the time, you don't know enough about them to justify feeling this way.
I'd say the only time you're justified in feeling that way is if you've been in a very long term relationship or marriage and it gets broken off for some reason that's not your fault. And even then, it's probably not justified 'cause it means the other half has done something to break it off and that shows them being different to who they were when you fell for them.
I would say that the great majority of the time, one-itis sufferers are also inexperienced in relationships and picking up girls. That's not true the whole time; it's not true for me, but for those that it is true for, it can be a confusing and frame-shattering time.
I know for me, though I wasn't inexperienced when seeking advice on Lioness, I was kind of lost, and certainly felt like my world would end without her. Irrational? Definately. There is absolutely no reason why I should have felt like that about her now I look back on it.
Solution? Sympathise with these guys, let them know we've been there too, and advise, lets not get arsey with them.
Though we know our advice will most likely fall on deaf ears, you never know, there could be the odd one that makes it through
Wilde
MAyne I was the one odd guy... who got off his one-itis.... I've had a lot of success within months....THANKS ALL YOU GUYS
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