| I went on a bar-approach hiatus for a while, and when I decided to start approaching again, I figured I'd mix it up a little, and holy shit, what I found blew my mind.
In my day-to-day life, I drop by Starbucks in the morning, I'll go to grocery stores; shopping malls...hell, I'll even go to car washes. And what do I see? Tons of smoking hot, intelligent mid-20's-early 30's girls, dressed really classy-sexy.
I've had suspicions that this was the case for some time, but there's no doubt now: these girls are not found in bars later that night.
... in fact, thinking back, I can't imagine where I've seen any of these girls, if ever...
The first two girls that I approached in these places... Their faces fucking lit up when I introduced myself. They were flirty, they were touching their hair, they asked me questions back.
And guess what the greatest thing is? These girls are by themselves when you approach them! - that in itself is a setup that most afc's would give their left nut for.
Yes the approaches have to be different. I actually start out with a simple "have I seen you somewhere before?"
This girl's face lit up and she said "maybe" and then she tells me her full name. I reach out and say "I'm Rob", and shake her hand. "Do you work for xyz company?" I ask. "No, do you?" She says.
I say "I used to, but recently jumped over to another company where things are little different, I guess I must have seen someone who looks like you in the hallways or something" (as I'm bailing, this was only for reconnaissance)
"Nice to meet you" she says.
I have a coach I was paying, and a couple friends I'd ask for advice about approach from time to time. "Don't ever ask that question man! That's the most horrible opener of all time! That will kill it!"
Needless to say, I won't be using that coach anymore, or asking those friends for advice anymore.
I've had a friend say "you seem to be the exception for some reason, somehow you've been able to take that 'you look familiar / do I know you from somewhere' line and actually make it your own and make it work. I normally never recommend that anyone use that"
In my view, if you are approaching a beautiful woman, while you're waiting for your cars to be dried,she knows what the fuck's up... Whether you're asking her if you've seen her somewhere before, or trying some clever bullshit you got out of some pick up book somewhere. She knows you are a man and it's on.
Yeah I guess the only question left is, when I start asking these girls if they want to hang out sometime or for their number and they respond with "I have a boyfriend", if I should bring out that Corey Wayne response and say "Oh, that's great, he can keep you busy when you're not doing stuff with me"
I'll try it a couple times and see if I can get a giggle out of it, but if the girls seem creeped the fuck out, I may need to recalibrate that second step.
Either way the past week or so has been incredibly enlightening and eye opening. I think I'm pretty much settled that bars are for taking dates to and grabbing a couple beers with your buddies after work; don't go in with any expectation that there will be girls to hit on or that any of them would be even reasonably receptive.
For me, day game is going to be where it's at!
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