Hey guys,

I'm not new to the forum, but because of my busy lifestyle I hardly post here. However, I think I should at least contribute in some way to the success of this forum and the success of each and every one of us. We are all in this together.

In this thread I'm going to highlight what I think to be the most important aspects of game, according to me, starting first with Inner Game and eventually finishing off with Outer Game. I know this has been done before by veteran members of the forum but I'd also like to contribute based on my own personal experiences. If you feel the need to, you may contribute or correct me if I am wrong.

Let's begin.

INNER GAME

1. COMPETENCE

Some argue confidence to be the most important element of game. This is true. However, I think a lot of people have confidence misunderstood. A lot of people, when you ask them what confidence is, will call it arrogance, cockiness, and any other adjective used to describe Ari Gold from Entourage. However true this may be, it is also false in the fact that if we think of confidence as this, it becomes a front one can easily put on like a mask to hide their deep rooted insecurities. Where the problem in this becomes apparent, is when looking at ways to develop confidence in my own opinion, part of doing so means addressing your deep-rooted insecurities by accepting them and making the necessary efforts to change them. For example, if insecurity is defined as a feeling of inadequacy in a certain situation such as approaching women, in order to remedy the problem we need to gain more experience in approaching women. Essentially, facing one's fears in conjunction with accomplishment is what creates confidence in an individual. Because confidence has now become like a mask people can wear when the moment arises to look adequate, it becomes neglected in the sense that it makes confidence both easier and harder to attain than it actually; easier in the sense that we can simply flip it on like a switch, harder in the sense that should such a thing fail us, we become even more deeply insecure and uncertain about ourselves. Because of this, I feel it important to change the word confident to competence. Rather than seeking confidence, or trying to be more confident, we should try to become more competent. Competence, or experience in combination with knowledge, is essentially what confidence is but described differently. When one does something for an extended period of time, one gains competence. So again, using the example of approaching women, the more we approach women and risk rejection, failure for the sake of gaining success, the more competent we will become. The more competent we become depends on how much we accomplish and learn, the more mistakes we make and learn from, the more competent we become as well. The more competent we become the more our subcommunications and communications come out as "confident', and the more women will be able to pick this up, and the more you will appear to be attractive to women. So my advice here is, rather than pick up the subcommunications and mannerisms of cocky television characters, and learn pick-up lines to give the impression of confidence, it is much better to approach any situation be it approaching women based on past successes, based on what you know works from past experiences. If you do not have that many references, now would be the time to find those positive references and recall them when you need to reflect on how to approach women, or if you feel yourself dwelling on false inadequacies. The truth is, we are all good with women, we just forgot those positive references, the times when what we said or did worked and it got women or people generally attracted to us. Remember those moments, build on them, and gain competence.

2. CONGRUENCE

The second most important aspect of inner game, in my opinion, is congruence. Congruence put simply is being completely aligned conciously and subconciously with your self-image and self-beliefs. If you believe yourself to be the hottest piece of a** on the planet, the way you talk, walk, act, etc would convey this message. This means, if you consider yourself to be attractive, the way you look at a woman will convey to her that you believe yourself to be attractive. She will in no way, shape, or form be able to doubt that you are who you seem to be.

Mindsets

Abundance

If you want to convey to a woman that you have plenty of options and that quality of women are not scarce, you want to think of women through the abundance lens. This means, you know that whether or not you get the girl you are after in any given moment, a girl just like her or better than her, is sitting on a bench down the street from where you are. It means you are not attached to the outcome of an interaction with a beautiful woman, because whether she rejects you or accepts you, there will always be another girl. There are always options. There are women everywhere and where one rejects you, two more will love you.

Women Love Sex

Women love sex. Enough said. If you ever doubt whether you should get physical, if you're wondering if you are offending women with your sexual remarks, remember women love sex. If you love sex and she loves sex why behave any differently?

I Am Enough

Where you are right now, where you stand is enough for a woman to feel attraction for you. Whether you are comfortable in your own skin, whether you love yourself for who you are, will determine whether a woman feel's attraction for you or not. If you use pick-up techniques and are not havin success with women, it is probably because she can sense that you don't feel comfortable in your own skin; you feel inadequate in some way. Although many pick-up techniques are designed to make you appear sexually superior, socially superior and seductively inferior, if you do not believe yourself to be sex worthy, she will sense it and it will be hard for her to become attracted to you.

I'm The Prize

You must be willing to let women go. If a woman does not meet your standards, if she's giving you bad behavior you need to either kick her out of your life, walk away, or put your foot down. You're the prize. In your life, this also means that you are also the most valuable thing in it. This means no putting women on a pedestal. This means screening women to see if they meet your criteria for women you want in your life. There is no such things as an HB9 or HB10, just HB? (HB with a question mark? is this a hot babe or not). In your life you're the hottest thing, and you qualify and screen to see if she can vibe with you. By all means, you want to be seduced by her in the sense that you are curious about her, but you are screening to see if she's right for you, and not trying to demonstrate ways in which you may be right for her. Also guys, do not be arrogant, a prick, and by all means do not NEG, you want to love women for what they offer to mankind, but you do not want to appear like the guy who sleeps with whomever he wants. You need to appear selective and hard to attain, you need to be the prize.

With the aforementioned mindsets, it's not hard to stay congruent to the image of a great seducer. If she throws a s*** test at you, because you're the prize, you flip the test back at her. For example, if she says "I bet you say that to every girl" you might respond with "If I got a nickel for every time a girl said that.." You know how many times I've heard girls make the same assumption?". Because you are comfortable in your own skin, you laugh at her insults and you make approaches effortlessly because you know you are attractive, and if she rejects you it has nothing to do with you. Because you know there are abundance of women, you are never attached to any one woman, to any one outcome and you risk rejection whenever possible for the sake of bettering yourself as a man. Because you you know women love sex you are able to handle tension better than she is. When she gives you strong eye contact you return it, you never flinch when she touches you sexually.


Stay Tuned...

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FOREVER A STUDENT OF SEDUCTION

You must be seduced by women in order to seduce women-ElijahGuru

Lloyd- Party All Over Your Body https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E9DgwZnjI_M

3. Purpose

State your name, soldier!

What are you here for? Are you looking for a long-term relationship, or are you like me and want to meet and understand as much women as possible? Are you here to cure a dry spell or are you like and fascinated by women, so much that you want to spend the rest of your life trying to understand them? Whatever it is that you are here, you need to define it. You need to outline this in your head or in a notepad. Put simply, having a purpose means you have something you are working towards, it means you have goals and this will help you keep your head in the game when you wake up and when you go to sleep. If you're here to learn seduction but you don't know what you want to accomplish with learning seduction, you're going to be like a dog chasing it's tail; you will read as internalize as much info as you can but get nowhere.

Have a goal or so, and make sure your life from this point on is geared towards accomplishing them. Naturally having a goal will come across in your mindsets, which will create accomplishments that will come across as competence or confidence depending on your understanding of the concept (s).

Non-Neediness

This is an elaboration of the mindsets from the previous post. If you really inherent those mindsets than you will not need to read this, as you will not see women as a need, but a want. There is a clear distinction between needs and wants. Needs are things we absolutely, well, need, such as air, water and food. Wants are things we don't need but are conditioned to want either by marketing's ability to invoke desire in us by using persuasive techniques such as social proof, or by our own desire for acceptance and approval. Did ANY of us need a Facebook account, or did we want it? Depending on how you answer this question will determine your level of neediness. If you believe you need Facebook, then approval and acceptance are core elements of your being, whereas if you know you dont need Facebook, then acceptance and approval does not concern you. In the same manner, if we see women as needs, we become needy, we put too much emotional investment in getting the girl and it comes across in our interactions with women. But defining women as wants, means we can take it or leave it, but it does nothing to who we are at our core because we already have what we need, and we could have the girl we want, but we don't need her. If you ever find yourself becoming needy it's because you put too much emotional investment in getting a girl, you converted her significance to your life from a want to a need. Understanding this, you should already know what you need to do to cure your neediness.


This concludes my section on Inner Game. Don't worry, this is only tentative, I will edit and add to it as time progresses as I implement more of what I learned in-field. I'm also open to suggestions and criticisms if there are any...

Now, I will move into Outer Game as soon as next day, but I would like to answer any questions first if there are any, so hmu

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FOREVER A STUDENT OF SEDUCTION

You must be seduced by women in order to seduce women-ElijahGuru

Lloyd- Party All Over Your Body https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E9DgwZnjI_M