| Wrote a piece on self-esteem, this is a nice summary, still completing it though. Any suggestions or thoughts?
What makes self-esteem a cornerstone for the quality of your life?
Reality is made of perceptions and choices.
The world is the way you understand it, and this determines your actions.
In the middle of this, right in the very centre, is you.
How you perceive yourself is central to everything you think and everything you do.
It influences your dreams, your choices and your actions.
The way you perceive yourself will determine your relationships with others, and of course, your love life.
When it comes to dating:
A lot of people try using ‘techniques’ or lines to make women want them, but they don’t realise that being attractive comes from within.
The further your skills with women improve, the more you’ll realise that it’s all about exploring and developing yourself.
When you have a high self-esteem, that is deeply rooted in your personality, you automatically convey attractive qualities to others. You no longer have to act confident or charismatic, you become it.
A prime example of such a quality is feeling entitled.
Believing that a woman would be lucky to be with you, can be very alluring to her.
Feeling entitled induces subconscious changes in your behaviour that other people can sense.
Low self-esteem can make you feel unworthy of attractive women, like they would never want you.
This becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
High quality women are not interested in men that aren’t comfortable with themselves.
Notwithstanding, being a bit nervous while talking to a pretty girl is normal, healthy, and unrelated to your self-image.
It’s a consequence of liking her, which is good!
We can conclude, self-esteem is a topic that demands our attention.
Practical:
A while ago, I read The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden.
It is one of the best books on the subject. It resonated a lot with my personal take on self-esteem, and enriched it.
Every pillar starts with ’The practice…’.
This emphasises how self-esteem is something you build up.
It are these consistent habitual changes that can truly change your ways.
These changes will also intensify your experiences with women.
The six pillars are:
1.The practice of living consciously.
2. The practice of self-acceptance.
3. The practice of self-responsibility.
4. The practice of self-assertiveness.
5. The practice of living purposefully.
6. The practice of personal integrity.
Currently writing a summary where I go further into them, but the titles say a lot to…
Peace out,
Terry _________________ www.datingheroes.com
Hi I’m Terry. Co-founded Dating Heroes.
Vlog & blog about personal-development, social skills and dating.
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