as the title suggests, my name is buttercup, new to the forum but not to the art of picking up women.

around 3 years ago a new friend told me about the Game, as i was 17 and never kissed a girl, i read and took it bit by bit, resulting in me losing my virginity last year, in that time i have slept with 9 women and it was all going well.

i knew my lines, what to say, what the reaction would be and how to close the deal.

best of all i could start a conversation with anyone and instantly make them like and trust me,

now here is my problem, i went back to my rural town after finishing college, and have been having a dry spell of about 5 months now

now i cant open, and when i do, i go on with my game, but its not the same all my confidence and charismatic prescience is gone. i can still kiss close occasionally, but hardly ever get my end away.

I need a more practiced hand to guide myself through this tough time, i think back to how i was in April of this year, my friends would pick out a girl in a club and say i had no chance, i would have numbers, kiss close and take home before they had the drinks in, HA.

Now i have zero confidence and the thought of approaching scares me again, same as when i was kid.

any guidance would be great


Cheers dudes,


Buttercup (uk)

You say you have no confidence and are scared. Being scared of anything can be fixed by being courageous. Courage comes from willpower and the understanding that you are a man and you are capable of exerting your will over things. You need to focus on getting right with that first and foremost.

The confidence thing can only come with success. And success comes with repetition, along with an effective system of self-evaluation that allows for personal improvement. This means you need to develop skills which allow you to improve your game, whether it be studying and practicing what other PUA's do. And you need to go out and apply these skills in the real world until you start getting results and build your confidence up.

There is no magic pill we can give you if that's what you were hoping for.

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“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!” ~Audrey Hepburn

You said you're now in a rural area which indicates there aren't many options for you when it comes to sarging. Another thing to consider is that when you were "on" perhaps there were other things going on in your life that gave you more inner confidence at that time. Taking a look at the whole picture can help you to pinpoint what is different now compared to then. Also, keep at it.

Maybe think about moving to a place that is more conducive to pick up lifestyle? That's my thought.

Your progression as a PUA isn't going to be linear, you are going to have bad nights, you are going to get rejected, even when you have laid over 100 girls.

Mistakes are awesome, keep making them, keep pushing through.