Hi guys,

Sorry for the long post but I felt some background was necessary.

I picked up a hb9,in a club, about one month ago. We went on two dates on the second we fooled around in the car for three hours. She wouldn't come up to my place and i didnt mind waiting another date since it was going in the right direction and i like her. Two days later I had to go on a business trip for two weeks and she didnt want to meet the next day. Said she she needs time. I stayed in touch via text..I always initiated, though she was the first to text me the day after we met (I gave her my number, she wouldnt give hers). She always responded to texts relatively fast and we had some text chats. She is about 13 years younger than me. (She is 25) and one of the ways I enticed her at the bar (at least i think so) was by challenging her by saying that I think she might not be old enough for me. I got back a bit over a week ago. We haven't met yet. She said she is graduating this month from her masters and has exams in two weeks so I accepted the wait (still a coffee would not seem like two much to expect). We spoke once four days ago. She said it was a busy week for her to meet but next week was better to meet up for coffee or something simple. She said she had a party out of town this past weekend (saturday night to sunday). We agreed I'll call Saturday (yesterday) and set a time to meet coming week. I called in the afternoon. No response, no call back no text.

I just bumped into her at 4am by accident in a club. She was very stressed (physically visible).Said the out of town party idea was cancelled and that they stayed in town. Said she had a terrible weekend and didnt want to talk about it. I switched and said that i know she likes me. She smiled and was a bit shy (that car did get steamy, but no sex) Said she was in a complicated situation. X-boyfriend (wasnt there with her and they were together max 6 months. Her longest relationship). Situation not clear. Said it was not a good time for her. I made a mistake, attempting to lighten the situation, and said that at least she is young and they dont have kids together. She got a bit irritated and said the emotions are still real. So i quoted to her advice she had given me when i had told her about my previous relationship which was to cut it clean, cause people dont change. She avoided any physical contact. I tried twice to get some light kino. She was trying to make distance so I said I was just leaving the club and just came into the room to say bye to someone. I told her I'll call during the week. She was not thrilled. So I said how about I call in a week, which she said ok to.

This explains the evasiveness maybe and not meeting last week when I got back. What should I do?

thank you.

FLAKE!!! its obvious she is just agreeing to stuff just to make you happy and also pushing you away?

im guessing this bit here wasnt planned,like you didnt expect to see her there " I just bumped into her at 4am by accident in a club.",she is flaking off you,id try and make her contact you because you seem to be always contacting her showing signs of desperation!

another 2 signs of flaking 1!"She avoided any physical contact. I tried twice to get some light kino.She was trying to make distance so I said I was just leaving the club and just came into the room to say bye to someone. I told her I'll call during the week. 2: She was not thrilled. So I said how about I call in a week, which she said ok to"

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Hi,
Thanks for taking the time. Yeah this was a complete surprise. I turned around and there she was looking me in the eye. I get that she is flaking. How do I get her to call me when she wants distance in order to give her x-bf a chance. I've been contacting her about twice per week while away and twice since I got back to town(three if you count the call she didnt pick up).

He has the home advantage so I need to be proactive. I cant wait and I cant hope to bump into her by accident. That is too random. If I dont call/text, she won't contact me. Waiting giving space might be the best move for all I know but it doesnt seem like it. Then again, I like her aa lot, she was cool and intelligent, and I am emotionally vested. Hence I need specific guidance rather than general strategy(e.g. call two days after and be direct/indirect. talk about x,y,z. Do not bring up a, b,c)

cheers.

now im getting a clearer picture,your calling her and she isnt picking up basically because she is trying to give her bf a chance.and she is avoiding you.(Eg doesnt answer you and completely surprised to see her in the club)

waiting time is giving her more chance to connect with her bf and you are basically saying She doesnt like you at all. SO you shouldnt stick to her if shes giving you IODs.Basically dont call her and wait to go out with friends to pick up more chicks because all girls are cool and intelligent like the one you described!! go out and find them!also wait for her to call you,if she doesnt respond, fuck her!

also do not get emotionally invested,thats for LTRs

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Hi


"...and you are basically saying She doesnt like you at all."

Is that how you interpret the situation? Cause I didn't read it like that at all. I actually thought she did like me, until this weekend that is.

A woman psychologist friend of mine said I should call the girl up tomorrow and just say "I'm fucking crazy about her and want to meet". Seems anti pua...but what you think?

cheers

Lets say I want to get her rather than step away. What's the best way? Surely its not impossible.

first of, these lines you said here: From those quotes im getting the vibe she is avoiding you and trying to blow you out of the chance of dating you,and yes it is not impossible to get her but its quite tricky since you cant contact her by phone because she doesnt pick up.
you cant keep calling her or else she may get the impression that you are a stalker and you wont leave her alone.Do you have her on facebook or social media and is she active on that?

But listen to your friend who is a psychologist and call her again but in a couple of days! and lol dont say im fucking crazy about you :3

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