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Hey guys,
There's this trend I've started to notice where almost evey girl I meet just prior to a holiday weekend or a "trip with the girls", you don't get a second date; she usually disappears in fact.
It's been so prolific in fact that I've billed it "The Holiday Phenomenon"
Any other guys seen this?
You have a first, maybe second date; you escalate, maybe make out a few times over the two dates. Things are going well and you think there could be a connection.
You're given every indication (her words usually) that she'll be back in touch as soon as she gets back in town from the holiday; or the "trip with the girls."
Then nothing.
Either radio silence, or (if you're lucky) "sorry didn't feel it/not feeling it"
And that's it.
This belongs in the lounge because it's addressing more of a trend/phenomenon, rather than specific advice about one girl or situation.
If you want an example of a really great couple dates where you run solid game, log quite a few hours, get make outs, that STILL gets the holiday phenomenon, read my last txt about bs phone game.
So what the fuck gives, guys??!
I'm beginning to think that during these trips, she's surrounded by aunts, cousins, sisters, girlfriends, maybe even her mother, and gets talked of seeing you for whatever reason.
Maybe if she's Asian and you're white, although she's dated white guys before; "honey, you really need to focus more on finding a nice Asian guy"
If social status/prestige comes up even if you might be doing pretty well, "sweetie, if he's a guy in the DC area who's made it to 32 and isn't making about 200K, you need to just move on"
Whatever it is, it seems enough to make her decide to ditch you.
This level of consistency, I've only seen with girls I meet is it prior to out-of-town holiday weekends/trips with the girlfriends.
Am I crazy here?
No. I wouldn't say you're crazy. It just depends on how you handled it. Did you text/call her during her "vacation" or did you leave it at "ok, have a great time?" If you answered yes to texting and calling her - reflect on how many times you tried that. Once daily? Twice daily? Any more than that and you've blown it for sure. Give her a couple days into this "vacation" to take a load off. Let her miss you for a little bit and then make your existence known. Just a simple "hey, came across something that reminded me of you going on your vacation, hopefully you're enjoying your time away from it all. Talk to you soon!" and let it go from there. It's ok to wait a few days longer (3 or more) without a reply before you text again with something along the lines of "haven't heard from you. Hope all is well and your vacation was good." This time; don't imply that you're going to talk to her again like you did in the first one.
Now if that wasn't the case... Did you even make contact at all? Maybe she was just waiting for you and you made her wait for too long! Believe it or not - that "wait x days" rule is just a myth. Especially if you've already made some sort of escalation. There's a small chance that she has seen through your facade as a PUA and is tempted to see if you're boyfriend material or if you're just another one of those guys looking to brag about your huge success with multiple women.
Whatever it is - make sure you let her know you aren't going to sweat it. Wish her the best and move along. Obviously she lost interest, found someone else, or just simply wasn't feeling you and only trying to see where it might go. We do it too. There's that possibility that if you play this card correctly and she thinks "well... Maybe he is a chill guy" that she will hit you up sooner than later.
All the best.
CHAT