'Vin DiCarlo - Pandora's Box' I'm 110% sure of this woman's type; The Seductress. Advice regarding this type; talk about sex like it's no big deal, while conveying passion not hornyness. To also appear mysterious, and have her see a whole other side to me, make her curious, and get her to chase me.

She's known me a long time, but we're going on our first date soon, she is unshockable, but there's things she doesn't know about me.

1) I have infrequently been bisexual (she is openly bi herself)
2) I have recently gone 100% cold turkey on porn, due to psychological effects that meant I couldn't reach orgasm (could fuck for hours but never finish), can only allow myself to orgasm with real women (been doing this for about half a month and today I orgasmed from sex with a woman for the first time since I was 18, I'm 31)
3) I feel that she may have been raped, or suffered some trauma of a sexual nature in the past, and was thinking of bringing this up as a cold read, in a sympathetic way obviously. Rape has been in conversation before but in the context of some films it occurs in, that she to my surprise said she liked, (I didn't).

What I want to know is will discussing any of these show that I am comfortable with who I am/emotionally stable etc, or will they just be instant death, or downright weird on a date?

(The place we see normally see each other isn't good for such conversations, due to interrupts, which is why she doesn't already know them. - Just saying that to nip in the bud the 'if you were comfortable why doesn't she already know blah...' response.)

Also reading 60yoc - Risk Creepy/Awkward, creating tension. Seems to suggest these are good ideas, but I'm not good at judging that.

Thanks.

1 - Your bisexuality - there is no reason to bring it up unless you slip into the subject.
2 - Porn - probably not interesting at all. Orgasm problems - something you tell her just before you are going to have sex. E.g. "just so you don't take it personally, I rarely come through vaginal sex".
3 - Such things are very personal, and something you ask when you already have that level of trust, and you really want to get close to her. I wouldn't do any cold reading, I would just tell her about my gut feeling - "I get this feeling you have been through some tough shit in your past, some trauma. But maybe it's nothing you want to talk about...?". Be gentle.

Don't bring up any of that shit. Keep it fun and light hearted until after you have sex with her. Don't dump all your garbage on her... If you toss in some sexual statements and you notice she gets a bit uncomfortable, I'd suggest you back off. If you think she's been through some type of sexual abuse... You DO NOT want to get involved in that shit. I know you want to get your dick wet but the consequences that may follow... Ask yourself "Is it worth it?"

Good luck

Thank you guys.