Ok here's the situation. I left my wife 8 months ago because of issues that we couldn't work out. She was still super attracted to me and tried to fix things with me for the last few months up until I told her I wanted to see other women.(Keep in mind we are not legally divorced yet, but I consider myself not married since I believe it will never work between us). She started to see another guy, and tries to rub it in my face every chance she gets. What I need here is ways to have power over her and destroy her "boyfriend". We don't live in the same state either, so I'm not able to see her (or my kids, I have two).

I want to mention I did use one boyfriend destroyer line and shortly after she posted on her facebook, Never lower your standards because you are lonely. If you let it, loneliness will play a part in some of your greatest mistakes...
Does that mean anything? Thanks.

So you DON'T want to get back together with her... but you DO want to make her think the guy she's with is inadequate?

I don't understand...

Yeah, that's exactly what I want to do because she keeps trying to rub it in my face.

Also, she ignored me for an entire day while she was "helping him move", and only after I threatened to take a car back that I let her sister have did she respond. Should I ask her if he moved in with her? They've only known each other for a month.

So you don't want her back?
But you don't want her to move on?
The 'flaunting' can simply be mutual or ignored.

Never get jealous when you see your ex with someone else, because our parents taught us to give our used toys to the less fortunate.

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My ex-wife and I separated about 9 months ago. She went through the whole "isn't life rosy" routine to me with the guy she was with. I know how crap it can make you feel even when you don't want to be back with her. Nobody likes being continually pointed at for being second best.

I ended up seducing her not too long ago, in a slightly embittered and drunken moment at New Year I had set myself the challenge for 2014. I know, it's a crap thing to do. Anyway, that aside, one thing I did was set unattainable targets for this other guy when talking to her.

Saying things like, I think it's great that you've found someone that you have such a good relationship with (I knew the relationship was very unstable) or you're so lucky to find someone that makes you feel so happy all the time. That kind of thing, whatever the weakness is adapt to it.

BUT... a few rules. If the weak points that you're targeting have been discussed openly you look like a sarcastic arsehole. You need to do a lot of reading between the lines and you need to be very switched on to the subtle stuff and pieces of info you can get indirectly. If she tells you they are struggling with money don't say something stupid later like it's great he can take care of you. You really will look like a dick to her. If you don't pick up on anything then just pick something that would be utterly perfect to achieve in a relationship and use that to set an unattainable standard. Don't make it sound unattainable though, it should sound normal like that's what everyone in a good relationship has.

You also need to seem totally sincere. You have to completely mean it, even seem a little sad about it. There can't be a hint of sarcasm or irony. Don't joke about it. Don't make it a big thing either, make the comment and move on. It's a throwaway line, you should say it like it's nothing, like you are stating a fact.

If you do it right then she starts thinking, I wish this was true. It plants seeds of doubt. She starts thinking, why don't I have this standard? Why am I not getting this? He said it like it's normal so that means I should be getting it but I'm not.

I'm telling you, it worked a charm. After a month of sneaking stuff like this is in she dumped him and we spent two weeks shagging like rabbits. Ok, there was other stuff but I'm pretty sure that sealed the deal with her dumping the other guy.

She may be acting petty, but ultimately, it is YOUR CHOICE whether you become angry or not. So just make the choice to not react to her.

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Why don't you just seek other women and stop giving a crap about your immature ex wife? Do you know why she keeps rubbing it in your face? Because she knows it pisses you off. Control your damn emotions and find hotter and better women(there always are hotter and better women) and everyone will be happy. Revenge is the most useless thing I could imagine. All you'd do is just waste your valuable time on a bitch who doesn't even deserve it.

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I think they do it to "show you" that they're doing just fine, so there asshole. It doesn't seem to matter how it ended, they feel like they got the shitty end of the stick, or even abandoned. This is a bit of payback.

It shows her thinking process, like this is a contest, with winners and losers. You did something to me, so I'm with someone else AT you.

Childish!

As for why she does it...it could be that she's trying to convince herself of how happy she is, because you know it's only a mask for what is truly inside. She is ill and emotional maturity is not her strong point so she's going to act out in some ways that seem strange, abrasive or even downright hurtful (like this). Just do all you can to remember that she is acting this way because of her, not because of you.

Her actions are about her perceived needs, purely selfish. I doubt that your feelings even factor in to the equation!

She's probably not trying to hurt you or placate you, she's just thinking of herself.

Don't fall into the trap, ignore, block her from social media, and your social circle if possible.

The only thing that would come of this would be a quick trip back to 'Red Lobster'.

Short lived, nothing more.

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Is there a way to make her feel jealous to the point where she wants me back? I just want to feel like she would get back with me if I was to choose to, but right now I'm feeling the opposite.

So?

Is this a jealousy thing, a revenge thing, or do you just want to fuck her again?

I mean I get it, it's rejection in the truest form, when a woman rejects a man with whom she has spent a considerable amount of time, such as being married. It is the ultimate rejection because the man is dismissed due to his all-around identity. I'm sure your self-esteem took a beating.

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Sounds like you are just looking for reassurance, that the new guy isn't as good as you and that she still wants you more than him.

I've been through that and it's crap. I had it for a couple of months. My ex-wife was putting on this big show about how great her new relationship was, makes you feel like shit and YOU start filling in the blanks to make it even worse. All the stuff you DON'T know you start making up about what a great time she is having with this guy who is so much better.

And you know what? It was bullshit. Turned out the new guy was a total fuck up. Living in his car after his partner kicked him out, behavioural problems, all his business clients started dumping him, huge debts. She was miserable. You have to remember women are far more concerned of how they are perceived than men are. She's made a choice at the expense of her marriage, she will make it look like it is the greatest thing ever regardless of how good it is. And to be honest, if she was like my ex then she'll be too fucked up by guilt and doubt to really be enjoying it fully.

Let it go, move on, cut her out your life. Right now she is in control of you, she's making you doubt yourself. Fuck her.

Or try and seduce her. I set myself that challenge, achieved it and walked away. She's back with him as far as I know with the memory that on her very first relationship on her own she was unfaithful to him after only a couple of months. Ignorant bastard that I am, that gives me a rosy glow sometimes.

Don't live in a middle ground. Gets you nowhere.

I'll try to be more clear and explicit this time, because your mind is clouded with serious, strong, negative emotions. You need to understand some things.

What you right now think is that if you can get her attracted to you again, and make her ditch the new dude, then you will find peace and you can move on. And nothing is further from the truth. All the energy you put into this will just accumulate and make your obsession about it worse. You may kick this guy's nuts but then will come another one. Don't tell me you won't care about it, because I don't buy this BS. You can lie to yourself, but I know this mindset way too well and I foresee what's going to happen if you continue this.

Your wife has made this break-up a contest, and just by participating you risk more than you think. The only way to win this is to not compete at all.

You only have one life, and right now you are wasting valuable time and energy. Instead of trying to make your life better, you are trying to make someone else's life worse. Wake up! Why don't you see how counterproductive this is to your self-esteem? You can't fool your subconcious mind. It knows that you are doing it because you feel like you're a loser and by reciprocating and continuing this behaviour pattern, you are only reinforcing this belief. If you want to move on then you have to forget about revenge or compensation, and put your focus elsewhere.

Peace,

In$tinct

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This post was after reading no other replies. You have no intention of getting her back but want to 'destroy' her bf? Man up bro.

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Such a satisfying feeling when “the one that got away” turns into “dodged that bullet”

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You guys are right, but I just want to fuck her one last time and then I can move on. I just want the satisfaction of knowing that I could get her back if I wanted to...